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06 Feb 2009, 1:45 pm

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You have to wait for the girl who talks to you and understands you. There will be a girl who appreciates your quirks.

Since most women don't like "quirks," I very much doubt that, but I don't care anymore.

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I guess what I'm trying to say is that you need to actually attract said woman in order for that approach to work, and since I'm unlovable, that's not going to happen in my case...

Well, there is no approach that will work for an "unlovable" guy anyway. The only thing he can do about it is become "lovable" by other people's standards.



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06 Feb 2009, 1:48 pm

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BS. Everybody is lovable. That's what my bf thought. He thought no girl in her right mind would date someone who made video game mods in high school, still liked dinosaurs at 20, and basically didn't eat anything but cheeseburgers.

I know it's hard for you guys, because you can't really tell when someone is interested in you, but I'll bet you $100 that someone has been. ...I don't know if that's comforting or not, Toad.

I hope that helps a little.


It's something I'd like to believe, but I can't believe it until there's some form of evidence that there's a woman that is attracted to me for who I am, not the fact that I can do long division in my head... Sure, I had some women hit on me, especially in my high school junior year bio class, but that was only because I actually understood the course material... outside of said class, those women wouldn't give me the time of day...



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06 Feb 2009, 1:49 pm

Cyberman wrote:
Since most women don't like "quirks," I very much doubt that, but I don't care anymore.


Awww. Don't give up. Hopelessness is not the answer. You will find someone, promise. : )



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06 Feb 2009, 1:50 pm

girlyCOG wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
I guess what I'm trying to say is that you need to actually attract said woman in order for that approach to work, and since I'm unlovable, that's not going to happen in my case...


BS. Everybody is lovable. That's what my bf thought. He thought no girl in her right mind would date someone who made video game mods in high school, still liked dinosaurs at 20, and basically didn't eat anything but cheeseburgers.

I know it's hard for you guys, because you can't really tell when someone is interested in you, but I'll bet you $100 that someone has been. ...I don't know if that's comforting or not, Toad.

I hope that helps a little.


I think you're right. But girls are just SO damn subtle about the interest in a guy they dont know its impossible for someone like me to tell unless I actually make a pass at her..... :?



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06 Feb 2009, 1:52 pm

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You will find someone, promise. : )


Oh, and just a little forewarning, since you don't know me that well: When I hear those words come out of the mouth of someone that has already found someone, I can't help but feel a bit patronized by the remark...



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06 Feb 2009, 1:54 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
girlyCOG wrote:
You will find someone, promise. : )


Oh, and just a little forewarning, since you don't know me that well: When I hear those words come out of the mouth of someone that has already found someone, I can't help but feel a bit patronized by the remark...



Lets put it this way: If I were you TOS I would stick to online dating, it makes this whole thing SO much easier in terms of figuring out if a girl is single or not.



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06 Feb 2009, 1:54 pm

girlyCOG wrote:
Cyberman wrote:
Since most women don't like "quirks," I very much doubt that, but I don't care anymore.


Awww. Don't give up. Hopelessness is not the answer. You will find someone, promise. : )

LOL, that's what they all say... :roll: (I'm 25 and never had a gf in my life, BTW.)



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06 Feb 2009, 1:59 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
girlyCOG wrote:
You will find someone, promise. : )


Oh, and just a little forewarning, since you don't know me that well: When I hear those words come out of the mouth of someone that has already found someone, I can't help but feel a bit patronized by the remark...


Sorry.



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06 Feb 2009, 2:08 pm

girlyCOG wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
girlyCOG wrote:
You will find someone, promise. : )


Oh, and just a little forewarning, since you don't know me that well: When I hear those words come out of the mouth of someone that has already found someone, I can't help but feel a bit patronized by the remark...


Sorry.


Don't worry about it too much... it's just that I keep hearing "you'll find someone eventually" from so many couples (often from both partners at the same time), and yet I don't see evidence of that being true, that to me such statements are only to assuage their own guilt at seeing someone worse-off than them (in the romantic field, anyway), hence I see that statement in general as patronization... Most of the time I'll just say "yeah right" and move on, but a few days ago I blew up in this guy's face because he said that...



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10 Feb 2009, 10:45 am

Just remember that by the time a girl is 18, she's probably had her heart broken a few times. In that sense, every girl is "taken". I'd say a rule of thumb is that unless she's got a wedding ring on her finger (and a few kids), then the issue is still open.

Sadly, a ring and some kids is no guarantee either...



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10 Feb 2009, 10:47 am

There is no way to tell just by looking at them. Even the hot, swimsuit model look-alikes could have a way of surprising you.



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17 May 2009, 7:36 pm

Most women I've come across with and I want to date them tell me they have a boyfriend!It's hard for me if a woman is single,or perhaps they've programmed to be professional girlfriends!



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17 May 2009, 8:19 pm

There's something worse than a woman telling you she has a boyfriend; not telling you about him and "hooking up" with you, only to have her unmentioned boyfriend find you kissing her and then beat you senseless.

Damn her...