27 Mar 2009, 10:43 am
Hello everyone. I'm new here, this is my first post. Because this thread is intriguing to me on several levels, I thought I'd give it a go and make a post. Please be easy on me. 
I happen to be one of those "older women" who not only prefers but happens also to attract younger men. I'm of childbearing age, and so I don't consider myself an "old maid" caregiver type that a younger man will gravitate to (though I do have years of life experience a younger man might appreciate). I most certainly do not want to "take care" of a man.
I've read a lot of good points in this thread, and I've read some things that are perhaps said from lack of experience with women, and perhaps a lack of life experiences in general.
To be honest, love comes from anywhere. Race, religion and age do not do a very good job of preventing love if it enters your life. I did not realize I had traits of AS until I met a younger man who has been diagnosed. I did not realize a lot of things until I met him (he pursued me, in case anyone is wondering). There are many times things are not easy; communication can be a problem, navigating feelings can be a problem, but age difference is not a problem.
As long as both parties agree on the parameters of the relationship, and there are true, deep feelings for one another, my opinion is to not discount anyone solely based on an age difference. This goes for older women, as well, who may not be interested in younger men.
Thanks for reading. 
27 Mar 2009, 10:58 am
pinktoes wrote:
I most certainly do not want to "take care" of a man.
And yet, 9 times out of 10, HE'S expected to take care of the woman. 
27 Mar 2009, 11:11 am
Cyberman wrote:
pinktoes wrote:
I most certainly do not want to "take care" of a man.
And yet, 9 times out of 10, HE'S expected to take care of the woman. Well - in a perfect world (mine, anyway) it's mutual.
My husband can't dress himself or feed himself - but he's good with money and can beat someone up if he ever needed to.
Whereas I, suck with money but love to cook and love fashion and feng shui and all that other stuff that goes into making a cozy home. (I work, too - so I contribute $ - just can't manage it or pay bills or balance a check book)
27 Mar 2009, 11:43 am
pinktoes wrote:
Hello everyone. I'm new here, this is my first post. Because this thread is intriguing to me on several levels, I thought I'd give it a go and make a post. Please be easy on me.
I happen to be one of those "older women" who not only prefers but happens also to attract younger men. I'm of childbearing age, and so I don't consider myself an "old maid" caregiver type that a younger man will gravitate to (though I do have years of life experience a younger man might appreciate). I most certainly do not want to "take care" of a man.
I've read a lot of good points in this thread, and I've read some things that are perhaps said from lack of experience with women, and perhaps a lack of life experiences in general.
To be honest, love comes from anywhere. Race, religion and age do not do a very good job of preventing love if it enters your life. I did not realize I had traits of AS until I met a younger man who has been diagnosed. I did not realize a lot of things until I met him (he pursued me, in case anyone is wondering). There are many times things are not easy; communication can be a problem, navigating feelings can be a problem, but age difference is not a problem.
As long as both parties agree on the parameters of the relationship, and there are true, deep feelings for one another, my opinion is to not discount anyone solely based on an age difference. This goes for older women, as well, who may not be interested in younger men.
Thanks for reading.
I happen to be one of those "older women" who not only prefers but happens also to attract younger men. I'm of childbearing age, and so I don't consider myself an "old maid" caregiver type that a younger man will gravitate to (though I do have years of life experience a younger man might appreciate). I most certainly do not want to "take care" of a man.
I've read a lot of good points in this thread, and I've read some things that are perhaps said from lack of experience with women, and perhaps a lack of life experiences in general.
To be honest, love comes from anywhere. Race, religion and age do not do a very good job of preventing love if it enters your life. I did not realize I had traits of AS until I met a younger man who has been diagnosed. I did not realize a lot of things until I met him (he pursued me, in case anyone is wondering). There are many times things are not easy; communication can be a problem, navigating feelings can be a problem, but age difference is not a problem.
As long as both parties agree on the parameters of the relationship, and there are true, deep feelings for one another, my opinion is to not discount anyone solely based on an age difference. This goes for older women, as well, who may not be interested in younger men.
Thanks for reading.
Werd!
27 Mar 2009, 12:11 pm
Pinktoes and MmeLePen just hit some home runs there! 
Cyberman wrote:
And yet, 9 times out of 10, HE'S expected to take care of the woman.
Is that your expectation, or is that what you think society at large expects of you?
Anybody with AS is bound to be doing something of which society at large disapproves. It's time to focus less on what society thinks, and focus more on what you think feels right to you. Just because 9 out of 10 people might think a certain way doesn't mean that those 9 people are right. NT society doesn't have all the answers.
27 Mar 2009, 12:22 pm
Stinkypuppy wrote:
Just because 9 out of 10 people might think a certain way doesn't mean that those 9 people are right. NT society doesn't have all the answers.
Werd.
27 Mar 2009, 2:52 pm
27 Mar 2009, 6:25 pm
Stinkypuppy wrote:
Pinktoes and MmeLePen just hit some home runs there!
Is that your expectation, or is that what you think society at large expects of you?
Anybody with AS is bound to be doing something of which society at large disapproves. It's time to focus less on what society thinks, and focus more on what you think feels right to you. Just because 9 out of 10 people might think a certain way doesn't mean that those 9 people are right. NT society doesn't have all the answers.
Cyberman wrote:
And yet, 9 times out of 10, HE'S expected to take care of the woman.
Is that your expectation, or is that what you think society at large expects of you?
Anybody with AS is bound to be doing something of which society at large disapproves. It's time to focus less on what society thinks, and focus more on what you think feels right to you. Just because 9 out of 10 people might think a certain way doesn't mean that those 9 people are right. NT society doesn't have all the answers.
I agree with the former but on the latter, I don't think we're THAT different from "NT society".....if there is such a thing.....
27 Mar 2009, 7:49 pm
MissConstrue wrote:
pinktoes wrote:
Hello everyone. I'm new here, this is my first post. Because this thread is intriguing to me on several levels, I thought I'd give it a go and make a post. Please be easy on me.
I happen to be one of those "older women" who not only prefers but happens also to attract younger men. I'm of childbearing age, and so I don't consider myself an "old maid" caregiver type that a younger man will gravitate to (though I do have years of life experience a younger man might appreciate). I most certainly do not want to "take care" of a man.
I've read a lot of good points in this thread, and I've read some things that are perhaps said from lack of experience with women, and perhaps a lack of life experiences in general.
To be honest, love comes from anywhere. Race, religion and age do not do a very good job of preventing love if it enters your life. I did not realize I had traits of AS until I met a younger man who has been diagnosed. I did not realize a lot of things until I met him (he pursued me, in case anyone is wondering). There are many times things are not easy; communication can be a problem, navigating feelings can be a problem, but age difference is not a problem.
As long as both parties agree on the parameters of the relationship, and there are true, deep feelings for one another, my opinion is to not discount anyone solely based on an age difference. This goes for older women, as well, who may not be interested in younger men.
Thanks for reading.
I happen to be one of those "older women" who not only prefers but happens also to attract younger men. I'm of childbearing age, and so I don't consider myself an "old maid" caregiver type that a younger man will gravitate to (though I do have years of life experience a younger man might appreciate). I most certainly do not want to "take care" of a man.
I've read a lot of good points in this thread, and I've read some things that are perhaps said from lack of experience with women, and perhaps a lack of life experiences in general.
To be honest, love comes from anywhere. Race, religion and age do not do a very good job of preventing love if it enters your life. I did not realize I had traits of AS until I met a younger man who has been diagnosed. I did not realize a lot of things until I met him (he pursued me, in case anyone is wondering). There are many times things are not easy; communication can be a problem, navigating feelings can be a problem, but age difference is not a problem.
As long as both parties agree on the parameters of the relationship, and there are true, deep feelings for one another, my opinion is to not discount anyone solely based on an age difference. This goes for older women, as well, who may not be interested in younger men.
Thanks for reading.
Werd!
Gee...thanks for the warm welcome!
By the way, the word is spelled "weird."
27 Mar 2009, 7:51 pm
No the alternative is word as in agree. 
27 Mar 2009, 7:52 pm
Cyberman wrote:
pinktoes wrote:
I most certainly do not want to "take care" of a man.
And yet, 9 times out of 10, HE'S expected to take care of the woman. Not in my house, he's not. Nor is this expectation common among any other women I know.
27 Mar 2009, 7:54 pm
MissConstrue wrote:
No the alternative is word as in agree.
My bad! I've not seen it spelled that way before.
Thanks for the props.
28 Mar 2009, 12:31 am
MissConstrue wrote:
I agree with the former but on the latter, I don't think we're THAT different from "NT society".....if there is such a thing.....
Society is generally a mix of NT and AS traits, and what I should've referred to earlier was the NT part of it. It's the part that's basically a group-think, a collection of people who all do things one way because it gives a sense of identity and belonging to a group, but which relies on peer pressure for its enforcement. People in the group tend to assume that beliefs held by the group must be right, but a more objective perspective from an outsider can easily see that such assumption is not always the case.
Here's an example from the Love and Dating forum of this kind of peer pressure/bullying. I gave my response to it further down in that thread.
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp2124102 ... t=#2124102
We aren't 100% different from NTs, that much I can agree with, but there are fundamental differences. And as long as NTs vastly outnumber us, combined with the fact that the majority of NTs think of AS and AS traits as some kind of disease with no redeeming qualities and which should be stamped out, society is going to be more NT than AS. Really, a healthy society is going to have a balance of both.
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