Would you date a single mom?

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28 Apr 2009, 8:15 pm

I have no problem dating a single mother. Of course, I never have. But I would think my independent side enjoyed the freedom created by being number two in her life next to her kin.

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28 Apr 2009, 8:20 pm

Who would date a single mom if she was hot? what about if she was not hot? Would you date Britney or Angelina?


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28 Apr 2009, 8:24 pm

Learning2Survive wrote:
Would you date Britney or Angelina?


Hell no... I don't care if they don't have any kids at all... I'm not going for pretentious stuck-up people like them...



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28 Apr 2009, 9:49 pm

I would not date them either!



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28 Apr 2009, 11:16 pm

I would date a single mom or dad, sure. So long as the kids and I got along, I would have no problem with it. I would hate to take on the role of "stepmother", but I would promise to be a much better stepmother than my stepfather ever was for me.



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29 Apr 2009, 4:13 am

Learning2Survive wrote:
Who would date a single mom if she was hot? what about if she was not hot?



Being attractive (or not), does not change the fact that she has kids.


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29 Apr 2009, 12:56 pm

Faerierealm wrote:
Would you date a single mama? Or ladies, a single daddy?

If no, how come? Would being ASD particulary make you not want to invest in a woman with "excess baggage" so to speak.

(Although my kids are not baggage- they are bonuses- mini me's!) As if my being a redhead isn't enough to deal with...hehe


No. When the time comes I would like to have my own kids (but this is not going to happen for the present 10 years to come (or even more), I feel way too young for these kinds of things, although I don't feel so young in general, though).


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30 Apr 2009, 7:16 pm

No, for several reasons. I'm not that comfortable around or crazy about other people's kids. I was an only child and never had to be around any younger kids, never babysat, etc. so interacting with children does not come naturally to me at all. Assuming that spending time with the guy comes with having to spend at least some time with his kid or kids, I wouldn't want to feel obligated to have to be good with them or enjoy spending time with them when I wouldn't. It sounds like a nightmare.

Also, frankly, the idea of a potential mating partner already having procreated with another person is a turn-off. There's biologically something very appealing about a partner who is reproductively pristine.



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30 Apr 2009, 8:24 pm

I'm not put off dating a single mother, in fact I have already done it, but it was long distance though


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30 Apr 2009, 11:29 pm

Most of you fellas know this but no one will bring this up, so I will..


If there are kids in the picture, it gives an excuse to buy toys for the kids from time to time but you will get busted playing with those toys as well...



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30 Apr 2009, 11:43 pm

No, I dislike children.



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01 May 2009, 11:44 am

I'm a single mum, and have dated someone with children, and he treated me very badly and he kept going back to his ex partner and fathered another child with her whilst he was with me. . I would not do this again unless the child was grown up or they were a widower. However I only really fancy much younger guys now, so probably would not date a single dad.



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07 May 2009, 1:42 am

I would consider it, but I would like to have at least one additional child, if possible.



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07 May 2009, 1:53 am

I was a single mom when I met my boyfriend, but it isn't really the same as it would be if my sons were young...they are teens and doing their own thing, and they have a father already.

...my boyfriend also is in no way shape or form in the right state of mind to be a dad, so I know that he will never want children of his own.



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07 May 2009, 11:22 pm

Out of self respect, I tell people that I'd never date a woman with kids. It sounds mean, but people really do think more of you when you show that kind of mentality.

As far as actually dating a woman with kids, first ask yourself if you'd date her if she didn't. If you answer yes, then it's worth a shot. If there's a conflict between me and her children, then I'd start having second thoughts. I've dated one who I didn't feel attracted to. Her kids were so charming that I actually enjoyed being around her.



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08 May 2009, 11:29 am

I remember I used to give this guy who I worked with at a meat packing plant rides to and from work. After we became somewhat acquainted and he discovered I'd never had any kind of relationship experience, he started always telling me, whenever the topic arose: "Single moms are so horny, man!" :lol:

Nice guy; I think he was trying to let me benefit from his years of invaluable experience. Everyone's got their niche, I guess!

Still, I don't like the idea of perceiving single moms as desperate and an "easy win," nor do I like the idea of being an object of desperation, or a kind of "ah, whatever..." partner. Outside of that, it's probably all good, so long as the topic of single motherhood is just an incidental facet of how we get to know each other. If it came to raising kids, I might frankly need to learn how to do it, first. Even then, I might run into the only-so-far-aspie-relationship wall. Who knows.