Pre-occupied with sex

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Yes. Honesty like that not only takes the fun and challenge out of a potential relationship or encounter, it also tends to instantly creep some women out. Sadly, it's very hard to tell from knowing someone, as even the most bawdy-humored person might secretly be a prude when it comes to reality (I learned this the hard way a few times).

Even if this scares off 99% of women, is that worse than scaring off 100%? I am suggesting it as a possibility, that's all. Let them know what's going on up there.

I think the problem is that a lot of Aspie guys here seem to not get that many opportunities. So if they only get 10 opportunities or less a year, they're essentially scaring away everyone and spoiling their chances.

With women, one of the keys is to let them think they are in control of the situation when it comes to sex and sexual topics. Later on when you're comfortably in a relationship, guys have a lot more say in this, but for the opening moves of the love "chess game," you don't want to bring out your queen.

Also, if you are too forward, women tend to think that you think they are promiscuous or "easy." They ask themselves "Why would this guy say this to me? What vibe am I giving off that he thinks it is ok to skip all of the normal small talk and slow build up, and just get to the point?" It also makes them wonder if this is the only thing you want them for. If they think that, you are toast.

This is why some people should never watch porn! I am one of those! How can you start a real relationship with a new person when all you can imagine is having sex with her? Mentally seeing your wood going in and out of her... and we just met!
How can I concentrate on getting to know her with those super kinky images in my head?! And girls gone wild? That's even better than worse! Now we expect our lovers to live up to all kinds of rediculous expectations in the bedroom...

Watch the food network instead! lol

Lol, you're from Belgium.. go hit it up in Amsterdam; it's only a stone throw away

But wouldn't the kind of girls you actually want, be more likely to not be bothered by this?

And also, shouldn't AS girls be (on average) more comfortable with guys being to the point on this, if they themselves want a guy just for sex?

*Cough*
There should be a similar site for ASD women, as well. Hell, why not combine the two?

Hey I'm an IT guy. I can set that up.

It ought to be an 'adult friend finder' version for socially inept geeks, really. Great many of us don't even know they are on the autism spectrum.

DOOO EEET! Muahahaha!

We can call it "pervertedaspie.com" or "finallydominant.com".

<Hi-5s> Thats been my argument for a long time, "Why engage in something that has no meaning and is not a real trial of being initiated into adulthood." All i can say is hormones are a pain in the ass. Male or female, hormones have a way of overriding all sense of self and turning you into something obsessed with reproductive functions. Now that is all genetically pre-programmed into all of us, and we have to deal with it in our own ways. Now, im not going to denounce the act, but what i despise is all the hype. Since its considered an "adult" act, you would think adults would make sure their children are ready for "that day," but because of social doctrines, if you even think sex you need your brain washed out with soap. That being said, something which is considered forbidden is all the more appealing to the stupid and/or reckless. In all honesty, having sex for the sake of it makes it have as little meaning as a tabloid . . . interesting and novel at first, but it ultimately has no basis in fact. Dont get me wrong, i do get the urges, and it drives me crazy until i get it relieved, but the fact that its meaningless without a commitment to one is no real rush for me to seek it out. <raises hand> Guilty of idealism

I think he tries to do that, it's just not that easy for him.

Like listening to a song on the radio? Like Like playing a game of football? Like eating lunch in a place with a nice view? For the vast majority of the time, none of these, in the larger scheme of things, has any meaning whatsoever. Neither do they have anything to do with adulthood. That doesn't mean we shouldn't do the if we like to do so.



<raises hand> Guilty of the idealism that enough of society will let go of this idea that sex has to mean something in particular.