When's the last time you had the courage to ask anyone out?

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Last may was the last time I asked someone out on a date and the third date was rejected. Rejection is no big deal so long as you have other potential women in your life. It teaches you a lot about yourself, too, if you're just starting out.

I just did a few minutes ago. He said no, but I still feel good about it.

OK...well I'm asking if anyone's from the same area as me.

Does that count?

Missing option:

Two days ago. (Didn't work out, retired from the scene with dignity)

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I do not ask, i wait to be asked. <.<

I would ask someone out if I knew enough about them to consider myself interested in them.

That's the key. I have to actually be interested in somebody. The problem is that there are very few people that I would consider to be interesting enough to date. Also, my religious/political beliefs clash with me meeting people with the same interests.

Here is my situation:

I am a Christian, and I vote Republican. I also like the Simpsons, South Park, and indie/foreign films. Conservative Christians think the Simpsons and South Park are evil because of the language on those shows, and they think indie/foreign films are bad because of the language, and occasional steamy sex scenes, and to them, watching those films is no different than watching porn. Also, I don't think sex should be limited to procreational purposes, or within marriage, and I am constantly in hot water with conservative Christians. Texas is about half-Catholic, half-Baptist. I am Lutheran.

However, many of the people who have the same interests and sexual beliefs tend to fit the "artsy hipster" category, but they refuse to associate with Christians, regardless of their denomination, because they think that all Christians are bigoted, racist, sexist, and homophobic.

To fit in with them, you have to be or do the following:

1. Be an atheist, agnostic, or practice a religion that promotes tolerance (I think they are specifically referring to Wicca).
2. Be a vegetarian (I am not a vegetarian).
3. Be an artist or a musician (I am studying urban planning).
4. Drive nothing bigger than a Toyota Prius (I drive a Ford Focus, and plan to get a luxury SUV).
5. Have liberal political views. The closer to communism you are, the better. (I vote Republican, and I am opposed to high taxes, and inefficient universal health care).
6. Live in a loft that used to be a factory or a warehouse (Those are very expensive, and I have no idea how the hell an artist or musician can afford places like that. Urban planners can't afford them, either.).
7. Get your groceries at ether a co-op or somewhere like Whole Foods (I get mine at Wal-Mart, one of those "cold, heartless corporations").
8. Drink fancy, imported European beers (I don't drink anything other than soda or juice. I had beer once, and I thought it tasted terrible, and vowed never to drink it again).

And they can spot posers fairly quickly.

And on top of that, NTs don't want me because I don't fit into their rigid social classes, despite my serious attempts to win them over. So I am pretty much confined to other Aspies who have the same beliefs and interests as me. I am not even limiting myself to my area, because face it, no female Aspies in Texas have the same interests and beliefs as me.

Not since I was in high school.

Ha ha. Never... I have been asked out before though, lucky me I guess. I even said yes once, it wasn't a disaster it even went pretty well, but still can't work up the courage to ask others out. I don't know how to bridge the gap from small talk to asking someone out properly. They pretty much have to take the initiative and generally I'll just follow along and try to keep up. Which isn't good because this tends to attract pushy or aggressive people and I don't like that. I have given the wrong signals too (apparently), where I was chatting with someone that I had no interested in romantically and she had somehow thought I was giving her the right signal, and I ended up turning her down. She got pissed to say the least (not my intention) and I am not sure but I think that is actually worse than personal rejection.

Oh well you live, you learn....

Mid-May this year. Tall beautiful blond woman. The answer at the time was, in a nutshell: I've got a lot of guys who'd like to take me out. I'll add you to the list.

Well excuse me missy!

In the past 2 years, I've only asked out 2 girls (They both said no). It does make me nervous trying to ask out someone, but the bigger problem is that I'm having a hard time finding anyone I'm remotely interested in.

Do you mean work as an engineer? I suppose you could go further west (el paso?), it would still be texas and there's an army base nearby, so there would be engineer jobs. I haven't personally been there, but I've heard of the dating situation being easier. The girl of my dreams is somewhere over there and she doesn't even know it oh well, Colorado Springs is it for me (my "no stalking" rule), maybe you can put the good word in for me over there lol.

Demographically speaking, some of the hispanic population is pretty compatable with your ideals, I'm talking about 1st gen immigrants. It sounds like a stereotype (and it is), but you're more likely to find someone with conservative ideals and not expect someone who has to display outright agression in order to prove themselves. As a rule of thumb though, any major population center is more likely to have a higher female/male ratio. Given the fact that San Angelo and San Antonio are both notorious for being party towns, I'd say El Paso is worth a shot (the other states you mentioned don't seem very promising).

1999 when I started dating my ex.

I'd have answered the poll, but there was no entry for 20+ years ago. In those two decades I was asked out a couple of times, but that's about it. For me it's not courage as much as probabilities. I tend not to bother with things that are highly unlikely to succeed. And I haven't had any interest in dating for a very long time either.