What are Asperger girls like?

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For me, it has been that I do look "girly" and when I was a teen, I wore way too much makeup in attempt to hide myself. I don't keep up with the latest fashions, but I try to look somewhat "put together". I don't like the feel of jeans. I prefer wearing soft, casual rayon dresses. My makeup is way less than it was in high school. I don't talk a lot, I hate talking on the phone and doing what most other women like to do. I prefer spending spare time with animals, especially cats. I read factual books and I enjoy looking up information on the internet. I don't dance, go clubbing etc. I don't make fun of other women, I don't gossip, I am usually not included when a group of women from work get together and go out to dinner, or lunch, or coffee.....etc. I hate feeling like I am competing with the women in the media. I want to look pretty, but never feel like I hit the mark!

For me personally, not the general masses, I'm a weird brand of female. I don't mean strutting around in dresses, but I wear boyish shirts with some girly pants/jewellry and it usually looks great together. My hair is technically a boy haircut, but it's neon pink. I'm adrogynous in a glittery way. Even my mannerisms and speech don't apply to one gender specifically. I'm just freaky like the rest of my family.

One thing I can tell you, aspie girls can be very honest. You might as well throw your ego out before the first date.

I SO wanted to say that

Well spoken Magnus..

Me and my boyfriend are both aspys and have been going out for 1 month. aspy girls are just much quietter than boys. as for relationships, i am still trying to figure it out. let me know when you have an anser

Aspie girls are the same as NT girls, they're not much different. If you are an Aspie and you grow up in a NT world, then you develop NT charactersistics.

Well like others have said, it really depends on the girl. I'm quite mad and have a bunch of obsessions that anyone I'm with has to deal with and give me time to pursue. My main problem in relationships is the amount of attention I need to give that other person, that takes me away from my stimuli. I have funny ways of talking and dressing. I'm bad at passing all the subtle hints that NTs girls do so well. If I like someone, rather than flirting, I blush and turn/run away.
I don't really think I could date an AS guy. I tend to look towards 'weirder' NTs. Someone who will appreciate my quirkiness, but will be able to help me in social settings, and take the lead when it comes to intimacy.

So do I!

Seconded.

My experience with AS women:

I once made out with an aspie girl. She was more of the ADD-ish presentation and also liked intellectual conversation. It was pretty intense. My first girlfriend was from an Autie family and was probably AS (psychs couldn't come to an agreenemt). It was so natural and rocked. She had intense interests (astrology, celtic mythology and farm animals). She made long lists of names for future pets, kept her room as clean and organized as an army barracks and spurned contact of other people. She was very understanding of me and seemed fairly nurturing. She was essentially like a regular girl, but more interesting, understanding, etc. The 'adult' aspects were amazing.

Also, one of my best friends from college is on the spectrum, although we haven't talked about it much. She is more or less like a regular girl, except she talks less and more or less does her own thing and has no pretense of being part of some "scene".

I would hope that Aspie girls are just like everyone else - but a bit more sympathetic when it comes to dealing with socially clueless Aspie guys (Intellectual conversation and other forms of geeking out are, of course, a bonus.)

They are different and more accepting, but many may be molded to thnk like NT women because there are not many aspie girls around. And aspie girls are still women, so i don't know.
What i'm trying to say is if this were a world of aspies, aspie girls wouldnt care about socially awkward guys, cuz who would be socially awkward???
I just think that aspie women are can think like NT women unintentionally, when it comes to what they find attractive in a guy because they are surrounded by NT women day in and day out.
If men were telling you that women have to be confident, women have to have a job, your friends have to approve of your gfs, you too would fall into their category of thinking like other men.

So what I'm saying is that all aspie women may not be just as accepting as you think, so don't go joining some support group just to find an openminded woman, because you might get your heartbroken and I'm speaking the truth with all the sensitivety in my heart.

but back to the original OP's question. Aspie girls are extremely different from NT girls, if you X out the dating area and what they find attractive. Most aspie girls dont sit around talking about guys all day or clothes and make up. we dont like to socialize as much as NTs, and we have very different interests. we can come off as bitchy sometimes too because we are usually more straightforward.

Accepting in what way?

There's always been this cultural pressure for women to be sweet and kind and caring...in what way is she considered not accepting?

-If she expresses and debates a different opinion- just as much as men aka (bitching)?

-If she refuses to date a guy simply b/c she is not attracted to him- just as much as men?

-If she bullies people- just as much as men?



Your mold of women comes across pretty broad and narrow. Not trying to say you don't have some good points but I'm kind of wondering...why women are so awful in this forum. My sisters are the total opposites of eachother and they're NT.

And btw, I agree that aspie women are not all openminded- just as much as aspie men.

Well missy I think I just mentioned what you said about the coming off as bitchy, go read above my post if u havent already.
Also, ignorance can cause people including women to be blinded by the fact that people may be different. Ignorance is something we are all born with, but able to stop. but some of us people are too stubborn to get passed our ignorances, so we stay more closed minded.
Many women are attracted to all kinds of men, but some wont date the guy they like because he has an awkward walk or acts alittle strange even though they like him, they are afraid of what their friends may think. Just like a guy who wont date a girl he likes because his friends may not approve, but women are more like this, and its the truth. Most guys will date a girl who their friends say is ugly or weird.
Aspie guys and guys in general can be closed minded. many dont wanna change, and never do because they fear that advice may actually work and all the stuff they have been doing was wrong.
So, excuse me, I think i made myself pretty clear.

Why are women so awful on this forum? women on this forum are great, the men just have had some bad experiences with them. and have you noticed most are young men. Young people tend to be ignorant to many things because they havent experienced life yet. I myself am still ignorant for the most part, I'm just 20.
So if a girl is young, she is no different than anyone else experiencing life and learning. so therefore she may be ignorant and selfish not understand that people are different, therefore not only turn the guy down, but say awful things to him. But as she gets older she may begin to understand that people are different, and she wont even have to know what AS is to understand this. This is why many asperger's men are with older women AS or not.
Thank you very much MissConstrue

No need to get emotional about it Ms Doubt...just an observation...btw, thankyou for what?

I think this may be true, not only for aspies but for other atypical women as well.

Maybe a girl who, growing up among those just like her, would have emotions regarding relationships and sex that would be exactly like the typical man's, are faced with men and women who follow their traditionally different emotional and social roles, and end up thinking like "normal" women because that's the only way anyone understands them. I'm not sure that's the case, but it's about the only way I can think of to explain why all women I meet seem to be so similar in their relationship desires.