Do you feel unattractive?

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01 Aug 2009, 8:00 pm

yes, when I look at myself, I can't imagine how other people see me, or how attractive and why. I feel unworthy of any man I have been with. My first husband was actually "butt ugly"!

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03 Aug 2009, 8:15 pm

:oops:

oh, no,no,no,no,no!
I rarely find myself attractive, and can't possibly begin to understand why people say I am.
I'm quite guilty of having BDD...years of dance and gymnastics, I suppose. One can never be "perfect" [what a truly horrid word....] in reference to physical beauty when it comes to those two.

Mentally...I am quite smart. Which makes not being able to always articulate how I'm feeling very aggravating, especially when someone doesn't understand that, due to being a bit of an emotional rollercoaster, it's difficult to even pinpoint precise emotions.

Emotionally-Let's see....hopeless romantic combined with multiple sensory triggers that affect emotional outbursts....in short, I'm an emotional mess, in my humble opinion.

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03 Aug 2009, 9:36 pm

Alone-in-the-Crowd wrote:

yes, when I look at myself, I can't imagine how other people see me, or how attractive and why. I feel unworthy of any man I have been with.

I am the same way on those points. I feel unworthy of anyone and I have no idea if I am attractive or not. Every time I have a girlfriend: I feel unworthy. Every time I am attracted to someone: I feel unworthy of talking to them.

I feel beautiful as far as personality and inner life go, but when it comes to relationships and looks, I am not confident and have no idea about that kind of stuff.

It's pretty depressing.

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04 Aug 2009, 12:06 am

photosapian wrote:

Awww =//

(btw i have no clue what BDD is)

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04 Aug 2009, 1:40 am

BDD is probably body dysmorphic disorder.

As for feeling unattractive? Frequently. Between rejections and awareness of my own problems and shortcomings, it's not really too surprising that I feel that way.

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04 Aug 2009, 1:45 am

Do you feel unattractive?

Yep, I don't look in the mirror, don't like my picture taken nor my voice recorded.

I despise these things so much, I can't read the thread yet.

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04 Aug 2009, 8:04 am

BDD-Body Dysmoprhic Disorder

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04 Aug 2009, 8:14 am

photosapian wrote:

BDD-Body Dysmoprhic Disorder

What's that?

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04 Aug 2009, 8:28 am

bdhkhsfgk wrote:

photosapian wrote:

BDD-Body Dysmoprhic Disorder

What's that?

Basically, no matter what positive thing or compliment one is told-or how often-about their body/looks, one is never satisfied and imagines that they are far worse than anyone else does.

Imagine looking into a fun-house mirror-those with BDD seem to have an internal lens that resembles one when it comes to viewing themselves.

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04 Aug 2009, 8:47 am

photosapian wrote:

bdhkhsfgk wrote:

photosapian wrote:

BDD-Body Dysmoprhic Disorder

What's that?

That answers why i have been thinking im an ugly frog for so long, it started when i was 12, i was always obsessed with having nice hair, but in the end i was never happy with my apearance at all, people have told me i look good, but i just thought about that many hours each day, i was depressed that i went around thinking i should cover my face or something, having that disorder sucks so much. When i had SEVERE BDD, i avioded all kinds of mirrors, even car mirrors, once i saw my look, i felt so depressive and had too look at it maybe 30 minutes before i could ACCEPT my look

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04 Aug 2009, 8:48 am

bdhkhsfgk wrote:

photosapian wrote:

bdhkhsfgk wrote:

photosapian wrote:

BDD-Body Dysmoprhic Disorder

What's that?

I agree whole-heartedly.
There are days when I'm....semi-satisfied with my appearance, but they are few and far between.

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04 Aug 2009, 1:15 pm

I have my good days and bad days. I find that I look a lot better in real life than I do in pictures/videos and such. I do sometimes feel unattractive, but I am often forced into snapping out of self-pity by my "unforgiving" but very loving family and friends lol.

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04 Aug 2009, 2:54 pm

I don't understand how girls can find guys attractive anyway, so it's a tough question. ^^
I basicly like how I look, but can't understand how someone could find it attractive, mayby some kind of defence for whatever.

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05 Aug 2009, 1:51 pm

I thought I was gross and ugly when I was a kid into being a teenager, but ever since I went away to college @ 18, I've never felt anything but supremely confident in my looks. I know I can have anyone I want.

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06 Aug 2009, 12:44 am

Sorry to break it to you, but you'll never have me no matter your looks. :lol:

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06 Aug 2009, 11:23 am

Silvervarg wrote:

Sorry to break it to you, but you'll never have me no matter your looks. :lol:

Okay, as a gay man, I do realize there ARE, in fact, limitations on who exactly I can attract. But within those confines, I can have just about anyone within reason.

Perhaps it would be more proper to say that in 13 years of dating, I've only ever been turned down by one guy.

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