autistic and gay?

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Ever since I was in first grade (not kidding here at all) I've been called every possible synonym for gay in the English language. What has happened to me is that lots of girls consider me a great friend and confidant, but are unwilling to take that next step towards a more intimate relationship. They tell me I'm one of the most honest, polite and sweet natured guys they've ever met, but then they brush me off every time I bring up the possibility of dating. Veresae wrote:

I got bullied and called gay... because I didn't think women should be treated as sex objects.

Same thing happened to me, Veresae. That is another thing girls always compliment me on is the fact that I believe in relationships for the relationship, not JUST for the sex like 98% of the 13-22 male population.
But despite all these great qualities they see in me I think they are put off by my intelligence and oftentimes over-their-heads vocabulary and jokes. What is most frustrating is these girls go out with hot but jerky jock boys who treat them like an old dishrag and whenever their boyfriends have been mean to them or they've had a fight they come running to me and cry on my shoulder, sobbing about how all boys are jerks and if they ever date another one like the current one they'll turn lesbian. All the while I'm standing there screaming in my head "WHY DON'T YOU JUST DATE ME?! !" I call it the Yenta Syndrome.
For those of you who don't know the Yenta is a Yiddish figure who listens to everyone else's problems and is supposed to come up with a solution. It's my blessing and my curse to be afflicted with this as much as my Asperger's is.
Anyhoo, back to sexuality, I came to the conclusion that I'm bisexual last summer. I came out at school last fall. Surprisingly, most everyone reacted well, commending me for having the guts to be honest about who I am. I earned a great deal of respect from people I never would have guessed would respect me for something like that. This reaction is doubly suprising given that Fort Morgan is a conservative, mostly Republican town of 13,000 people. My opinion is this: Either you can accept me for who I am or you can shove your bigoted opinion up your ass. I've been with a few guys, nothing serious, just experimenting. I'm always up for that, boys.
I'm also lucky that two of my closest girlfriends have gay uncles and are completely supportive of me. Unfortunately, my closest girl lfriend Lindsey's uncle died of AIDS when he was 32, so she is always on my case to get my blood tested if I plan on doing any sexual activity regardless of whether it's a guy or girl. Cassie's uncle is a gay transvestite, so she always stands up for me if people begin talking crap about me.
The biggest issue with coming out seems to be (especially in a small town) is that you are worried what people will think of you. In my case, I don't care. Kids at school are always inquiring "But don't you care what people will think of you?" and the answer to that question is: I don't give a damn what they think. After I've graduated high school I'm never coming back to that festering canker on Satan's ass called Fort Morgan.
I appreciate a hot muscled guy just as much as I appreciate a sexy, curvy woman. And being a photographer I know when I'm looking at a body that would be great photographic (but not neccesarily pornographic) material and am not afraid to ask guys or girls if they would like to model for me. That's just part of my outgoing nature. So far I've had a few male takers but females are harder to persuade, mostly because they are suspicious of your motivations for the shoots (i.e. most of them believe I'm going to get off to my own work late at night). I'll probably get some female takers eventually.
It's complex, but it's been fun.
If there are other bi Aspie guys out there, I'd love to chat with ya!
Just send me a PM!

i am bi. in spirit if not in practice

not gay, bi or straight. i am not realy into relationships. i won't know exactly what i am until i want or am ready for relationship, but i am not sure until then.

I always knew I was different. I just didn't really know why. There has been a point in my life that I actually thought I was gay, despite the fact I have never ever fancied a chick in my life.
I'm not gay, I am an Aspie. That's what made me different.

I have noticed quite a few said they were bisexual. At what age were you diagnosed? Is that perhaps because you were so desperate to find out what exactly it was that made you different? Some people may think bi-sexual is weird, so they won't ever try it. But if you're an Aspie you already feel 'a bit odd', being bi-sexual doesn't make us any more weird. Perhaps Aspies are more likely to 'give it a go"?

I snogged a girl once. If you close your eyes it's pretty much the same as snogging a bloke. But then she pressed her tits against mine. "IEEEEEEEEEEEEEEUW!! ! Don't you ever do that again." Gross. Nope, definately not gay.

I have Asperger's(among other things) and I although I am sexually attractedto women I am open minded when it comes to love.


-SpaceCase

I'm straight. I cannot see myself as a homosexual.