Question for aspies in relationships

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ooh, I live in milton keynes I will have to organise a meet up here soon!

I met my boyfriend on aspie village forum and we chatted on there and on here and then met up at a meet up and chatted some more and got on well and became closer. Then when I asked him to check over my dating add I was going to put up on the singles list here, he said that he would be my boyfriend.

It has been hard work and Ive really struggled to accept someone in my life and found it difficult to make the relationship work, but things are improveing all the time and now we feel very close and loving.

I met my boyfriend because he started working with a friend who invited him to join our irc channel. We actually met in person a few months later and became pretty good friends but didn't start going out until about a year after we'd met.

I waitered her in a bar I was doing part-time job. She was drunk and we organized to meat later in a club but when I got there she wasn't. She told me one of her friends got sick and they all went home. I was pissed off and she probably mistook my passive-agressive for playing hard to get and wouldn´t give up. We had a fling for a couple of weeks but I was moving away for a few months because of a job and so we kept in touch by mail and email which resulted in a real lovestory. I'm sure if it wasn't for that coincidence we would never have lifted.

Not currently in a relationship, but I will share how I met my previous two partners:

First relationship: I met her in high school. She would always try to flirt with me every time we passed each other in the halls. We dated for two years, but it turned out she had been cheating on me the whole time. As a result, I vowed never to date another NT again.

Second relationship: I met her on an online AS forum (not WP, as it didn't exist at the time). We dated for three years, and the relationship was long-distance (I'm in Texas, she was in Minnesota). The relationship fell apart when she said that she wouldn't be ready for marriage or sex for five years (she and I had been together for three years at the time), leading me to believe that she may have been asexual, and she had touch issues as well. However, she and I remain very good friends.

Also, recently, I was in a friend-with-benefits situation. I met her on OKCupid, and the original plan was to meet for coffee, but instead, we ended up going to her apartment, and I lost my virginity that night. Needless to say, because of me being on Paxil, I had a difficult time achieving orgasm. After meeting up again, it turned out that she only wanted a short fling, and we remain friends.

I met my partner through community theatre.

I had just moved to Vancouver, I was living in the West End, working for a gay law firm, volunteering with gay organizations, etc. I started to feel very ghettoized, so I auditioned for a play, got cast, and the day after we closed, the lighting designer called me up and asked me out.

That was in March 1991. We're still together.

Let me start by saying that although Aspie I don't generally have trouble finding a gf, but I used to tend to choose wrong!! LOL

OK so I'd just gotten thru some stuff with an ex-wife and decided not to date for awhile as it was a very bitter breakup, and reflected on the fact that since I tended to jump in too soon (I have been known to find a gf within 2 weeks of a breakup) it would perhaps be better to hold off on the prospects of dating, so I held off thinking about looking for about 14-15 months. Eventually I'm ready after doing a lot of reading, reflecting, calming down, etc.

Long story short I teach piano lessons at my house and I don't drive. Once day I got this offer from a millionaire to come to his house to teach and he'd pay me TRIPLE my usual rate just for going to him. So I'm hooked. I met who is now my new gf at a bus stop and we talked, I got her number, we go out for coffee and stuff for a few months, she "friendzones me" LOL without me so much as having shown any interest or even having tried to kiss her, I roll with it graciously and, continuing to see each other at least once a week; then about 15 months after first meeting (while at my place hearing me play the piano) she says: "I suppose it's time for me to take my clothes off". LOL. I was sooo cool in all of it hehe.

The rest, they say, is history. And BTW we met only because the millionaire had to change lesson days that week (I met her on a day other than his usual lesson day), she happened to be at that bus stop for the first time that day after not having used it for FOUR MONTHS, and I had taken the bus EARLY to have time to get a Starbucks before the lesson. Fate, anyone???