Should you look for someone similar to you or the opposite?

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If I have a high SQ of 85 and am very logical and an "Extreme Systemizer" and have very little empathy or EQ, should I look for a girl who is also like this (although probably not as extreme) or for someone who is the opposite of me in that they have more empathy or should I look for someone balanced?

I say similar... such people are most likely to be able to identify with the types of issues that you're going through in life...

I voted for similar.

I voted balanced. Everything needs balance to be happy and thrive.

If they are too similar, then conflict can erupt; too different, and there is nothing to share. Balance is important, that each person complements the others instead of duplicating strengths and weaknesses, or having no common ground.


M.

I would say a mix of similarities and opposites/differences - another you would be redundant.

Enough similarities to make some connection.
Enough opposites and differences to be interesting to each other.

And a mix of skills and talents where one does well at some things, the other at others, so as a pairing they cover everything.

I voted for opposite, because that is what my current relationship is. My SO is compassionate, sensitive, and low key. I tend to get impatient or intolerant in a stressful situation, and he is patient and understanding. I feel that he complements me nicely!

I'm just waiting for the release of the iBot.

I vote all three. You want someone that is similar enough to you that you have a lot of common ground, yet you don't want someone that is exactly like you, because you would get one each other's nerves. You also want someone that balances you out, in that they have what you don't, and vice versa.

Basically, you are looking for someone, whose key fits your lock.

If I were attracted to men, or into love and dating, I'd bring home a frail, boney Beatles fan from Liverpool which I think is in Northern England and show him a good time. After all, opposites attract.

I chose balanced, however in your case I would go for similar. Nevertheless, my advice to you is to just go for whoever like you if you like her too and see where that gets you. Sometimes luck may come unexpectedly.

Either. Most of us can't be choosers.

Balanced.

Similar obviously; things would be much easier if I was with someone who liked the same things I did. We'd at least have things to talk about and more things to enjoy together.

balance is what I voted, although opposites could work to. share intrests that you and your partner dont have, expand eachothers horizons, blahblahblahblahblahdribbledribblewhatever