Dudes--Getting hit on.

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I get hit upon all the time by women. Lot of flirting at times and it drives my girlfriend crazy. We were in Victoria Secret the other day when I was with her shopping, and she was picking out panties and a few bras. There were several other women there hitting on me there which got my girlfriend quite jealous. Lot of times I don't realize it anymore because it happens a lot where ever I go.

I remember long ago being hit on by one of my cousins friends. Since it had never happened before I panicked.

It happens occasionally. For some reason, a lot of black women in their 30s hit on me! I have definitely noticed that more women hit on me when I have a girlfriend, probably because when I'm not single, I'm not as awkward around women. I can also recall a few times pre-college when I was hit on and did not realize it.

Not sure if I do or not... seems like there's a fine line or even two overlapping zones between flirting with a goal and some kind of personal affirmation/entertainment.

Since I made the corresponding one for the girls, I had to vote in this one. I put that I don't get hit on, and that it makes me feel frustrated and rejected. I simply cannot for the life of me understand guys who have to reject sexual advances from women. Especially ones who are supposedly socially challenged and still do.

And yes, if it started happening I might very well suspect that they weren't really interested, and were just leading me on. At least until I had actually managed to sleep with a few of them, then I'd actually believe that others in the future really meant it.

But being socialy challenged also means we don't know the correct way to respond, this is further complicated in my case by conditioning by family about avoiding such activites.

There is also the issue that there are females who seem to be attempting seduction so that they can brag about getting the "impossible" guy. would you want to go out with someone who would proceed to brodcast the details to everyone she knows?

how do you know ?

Generaly, by previously hearing the same individual bragging about past conquests. I know that is usualy considered a male behaviour, but there are plenty of females who do the same thing.

I'm completely oblivous to it. I wouldn't know unless a girl directly asked me out--and they have--but then I get intimidated and pretend that I didn't hear it or back down. Either that or after-the-fact a friend would tell me that some girl was totally into me, but I thought she was just being friendly. I didn't vote because I have no idea.

Once when I was 17 at my first job a hot female co-worker I was good friends with asked me for a huge favor (switching shifts, which would give me a week-end shift). I said "sure" and as I walked away she asked me if I wanted to go out. I pretended I didn't hear for a few seconds and then looked back and asked "What?" and she muttered "Nothing" and walked away. Stupid, stupid me.

I find it often hard to tell when women are interested in me because I find the hints too subtle to pick up

This is my case as well, I do not know the girl is showing interest and I believe we are just having an casual conversation which I enjoy a lot if the person is a delight to speak to and follows the subject.
Thing is that I do this in clubs as well when we go out and so this conversation between me and the girl is small talk which i don't understand and I tend to go on talking when I guess she wants to go dance or get flirty and has a different agenda in general.
After a while the girl just comes up with a excuse and leaves or just says "nice to have met you" and walks off.
After it happens, and me being watched by my company which I arrived with, I go back to join them for some drinking and they later tell me that I screwed up and that I missed out on a chance with the "chick"...
From my point of view I'm just indulging in a nice conversation with a girl, and I like talking to girls since they share my more delicate and soft personality so I just view them as friendly. Tho I am very sexual in my nature I choose when to be and strive for a girl to hook up with, but I am very picky and it might not always go as planned, but as I am in this sexual mood I tend to pick up on every signal and flirting that comes with it and I can be quite charming and funny and very confident, and I don't need to be drunk to act this way either.
It's just funny to me as when I'm not in a sexual mood and aroused in any way I am completely clueless and miss all the signals that I seem to pick up on when I'm on the "prowl".
This makes a good repel technique as I'm not very interested in the girls that approach me, and by acting so clueless and just generally friendly they get to walk away as the not interested one as I "scare" them off with my monotone strictly conversational behavior, but as I hate to be rude and tell them to go away at times this serves as a nice social tool for removing them and making them feel as tho they are not being pushed away.
It is rather agonizing tho as I get approached at times ( and sometimes unaware that they are hitting on me till I get told by my friends) and I'm not really in the mood to speak to them but at the same time I act very friendly and never rude and that causes me to feel quite frustrated and irritated in a situation where I just want to enjoy the scene and environment of a club or a party without having to converse with different interested girls/women that I feel want to hook up.
Sometimes I'm in a more ruthless (in my view) mood and just plainly ignore them and give rude and short replies to make them go away, but this turns in to a game of tease, and the girl keeps coming back as I believe I give the impression of being a hard ass and a "bad boy" which makes some denied girls come back and act even more forward and playful thinking it's a game I'm playing.

humans...

I'm pretty oblivious unless a woman is really forward. But it goes both ways: I'm extremely uncomfortable with it (although I understand physical attraction, I don't know how a person can like me so much before really knowing me--it feels blind to me), and it's something of a confidence boost after the fact.

Every now I then I might get hit on. I like it as long as its genuine.
Would like it to happen more often as it is a great ego booster.

I've noticeably been hit on a couple of times and was completely startled by it to the point where nothing happened. According to my few coworkers/acquaintances I had been with at the time, it's happened a lot more than I realize. Which I suppose is a good thing, both about it happening, and about me not being completely stunned, but bad in the fact that I flat out missed it.

Then again, in all those places where I've been told it's happened I wouldn't have been looking for the type of girl that is normally in those places anyway. I myself am only there because I had no choice in the matter.

I get hit on far too often. The problem I have is that many of the people who hit on me are far from being my type.

I'm a bit picky about potential partners (I'm anything but an outdoors person so that rules out a lot of people--they can NEVER take me camping no matter how hard they try!) plus I have high moral ground I stand on (I don't drink, don't believe in sex until marriage, and prefer conservatives in terms of values).

Thankfully I'm about done with college (one semester to go and it's student teaching) so many of these girls won't hit on me anymore. It's even happened at church, though, so I'm not safe from it!

My problem isn't that I don't know how to respond, it's that I don't want all the attention sometimes.

I'm in this boat. I've gotten told before when out with friends that i'm being hit on, you know the after the fact thing, walking away from a random encounter and get the elbow to the side and told "dude, she was totally flirting with you"

It's kind of related, at least i feel the same way when it happens, but I also have a half dozen friends who are always trying to "hook me up." Hate it =/.