Facebook for date request???

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I don't think it's a bad idea at all. If you all are already friends, then she probably already knows things about you (such as that you might be shy, etc.). If she understands these things about you and is worth dating, then she will not be put off by the fact that you asked her out via a social networking site.

I, personally, would consider it.

Facebook date request is logical, but NTs are not logical. Many NTs get intimidated by unexpected Facebook messages. A message can be interpreted in many ways and often girls automatically interpret the message as "creepy", "stalking", or "weird". Facebook is not a dating site. If you want, you can first send her a friendly facebook message. I have done the friendly message thing and 4/5 times they don't reply. So, it's better to ask in real life. In fact, facebook is only worth thinking about if you already are talking with girls on facebook or by email and you know her well. Otherwise, it's just creepy in the girl's mind.

I'd be totally fine with that. This isn't 1921. Nobody has to come into my parlor with a calling card. This gives me time to think carefully about an answer. I asked my aspie out via email!

I'm a little fearful that you are concerned she would make fun of you though. I think if you feel that uncertain you might want to know her a little better.

If a girl had asked me out I would of prefered it in person because there's more feelings to it compared to the having to be asked out just on facebook and I occassionally go on facebook but not often.

But what I would of done is talk to the girl more and more on facebook and tell her that you got a surprise, and when you see her in person, that's when you tell her but you got to be 99.9% sure she actually likes u back, it would work.

If not liking that idea, you could always just tell her on facebook, better in inbox, dawn, modern love these days are soooo cheesy. it's worth it though


superboyian.

I only voted bad idea because it doesn't work, at least not for me. Scheming never works, just gotta be upfront and hope for a victory. But, as someone said there's nothing to lose, except it would probably be awkward if you see her a lot.

Don't do it. Some people are weird about being asked out on the internet, and while I'm not one of them you want to give yourself the best chance.

As a girl who has been asked out on fb before (and said no), I say no - it's a bad idea. If the person who asked me out over fb was someone whom I hadn't met before in person, I wouldn't even consider going out on a date with them. If it was someone I knew in person, maybe... it depends on how well I knew them. If it was someone I felt like I was good friends with/knew well and had spend one on one time with in person on several occasions, maybe... Apart from that though, probably not. I would also lose respect for that person for not having the guts to approach me in person or ask me out over the phone at least (unless using fb was a matter of necessity).