Is he in love with me still?

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Many years ago, I broke my bf's heart by lying to him. He called me "boring" one night, and I was just so embarrased and hurt that I made up a lie that I went to the hospital. What I feel bad about is that he told me (through someone who I was pretending to be) that he loved me. He also cried on his way to his sister's house. Which made it worse for me. We broke up over a year ago because of this situation. He called me a liar. But, 2 years later, we're very close friends. We talk about almost anything and we both share daily stories about whats happening in our life. Recently, over Thanksgiving, I asked him out again and told him to think it over till Christmas. My friend asked him though if he was going to say yes. Well, he did tell him yes he was but he wanted to wait awhile before we went into a relationship. Well, on Christmas I asked my ex if he'd date me, and he said no without any explanation. But in my head, nothing has changed. My question is do you think he's testing me to see if I move on without him? Or does he generally not want to be with me anymore.

Take him at his word - the word he spoke to you directly. I know it's not the answer you wanted to hear, but he did take several weeks to think the matter over.

And if he's the kind of guy who would manipulate you with a "test" rather than giving you a straight answer, why would you want to be with him? How could you ever trust him?

I agree with Hopegrows, take him at his word. If you don't, it may make your friendship very awkward.

Haha thats just my signature

I think that you two have a very good friend relationship right now and to go back to a serious couple realtionship would not be a good idea. He may like you but not want to take that road again because of what happend. I would say try to move on. Don't let hold on to something thats not there for both people. A friendship with that person is better than losing them completely. What's ment to be will be.

Why would he waste your time (and his) by lying to you? If he said he doesn't like you like that, then he probably doesn't.