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31 Jan 2010, 4:38 pm

I would say yes and no, If I wanted to be NT, but I feel like I am close to NT in many ways. But many mistakes I made in the past were AS-like, like really careing about important things in life when I was in high school, middle school etc. As well as trying way too hard to be funny (due to the fact that I was trying too hard to seek attention.) If I was NT or at least cared about school back then, my life would be ten times better in my opinion. These are my opinions.



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01 Feb 2010, 6:56 pm

I don't know, because I have never lived life a full NT so there's nothing to compare my current situation to, if I had a week or so as an NT then I'd know.
But the thing is there are all different kinds of personalities in both AS and NT people, so it's not like they're 2 distinct categories, so if I wished I was an NT what kind of NT would I be?


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01 Feb 2010, 7:16 pm

There are times when I wish I could communicate my feelings better. I can tell my wife how I feel about her, but expressing strong emotion is extremely difficult. There is much I would give up for the ability to do that.



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02 Feb 2010, 3:03 am

I wish I could change the lack of social and communication skills part of it, though I didn't mind having better grades than my NT siblings.



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02 Feb 2010, 9:14 am

I gotta say I do. I wouldn't have the constant anxiety I have and I wouldn't be so socially oblivious to everything. I think I would certainly be a living a much happier life. If I could have that confidence and no fear of perusing women, that would be a bonus.



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02 Feb 2010, 8:58 pm

yeah, at least I wouldn't be a social cripple, or maybe if I was more autistic I wouldn't be aware of what a cripple I am



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02 Feb 2010, 9:42 pm

lennyk wrote:
yeah, at least I wouldn't be a social cripple, or maybe if I was more autistic I wouldn't be aware of what a cripple I am

That's kind of how I feel. I also feel like I don't like being around people, but I don't like being alone.



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03 Feb 2010, 8:43 pm

I like being an aspie strangely enough. it gives me different ways to see things, and life would be extremely boring if i was normal. the reason i say normal is, the reason people say were different is we aren't like them, and them is the bigger amount of people who think alike. if we we're the majority, this whole topic would be "do you wish you were autistic"


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03 Feb 2010, 8:47 pm

Spokane_Girl wrote:
There is no such thing as 100% NT and 100% aspie.


Speaking from personal experience, there is a such thing as 100% awesome though!!



As far as being NT? Meh, not so much; I've learned to adapt to much of me and wouldn't know what to do if I was any other way.



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04 Feb 2010, 11:15 am

Why, so I can be just like everyone else in the world and have a boring normal life in which pretty much nothing of any interest ever happens?

If I was NT, I'd be a completely different person. Therefore, I don't want to be NT.

I'd rather die than be cured. If I had to, I'd give up everything in my possession to stay Aspie.



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05 Feb 2010, 6:46 am

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I think there is a lot of stereotyping on here that all NTs are loud party-animals that are rude to their own kind and especially to people who aren't like them. My brother is NT, is a year younger than me, and is a nice guy that isn't a tool and is an individual.

I personally wish whatever was "different" about me in appearance, body language, behavior, and speech would go away. Sure, then I would have to make a life in the real world and wouldn't have any setbacks to use as excuses, but I'd rather blend in and be "normal" than live the current life I'm living.

To get this on the topic of love and dating...I am attracted to NT women. I don't mean the stereotypical college-aged party girl that has no substance...or extremely outgoing women...I just mean normal women that don't have quirks. I honestly think while there are a lot of pricks out there, there are a lot of pricks that aren't NT as well. To quote Hope, it isn't an NT or Aspie thing.

The reason I don't identify with a lot of people isn't because I have Aspergers. It's because I'm a nice person, and only identify with other nice people. I can't fathom how people can be so mean to each other. Sure, I'm guilty of being judgmental at times, but that's usually about people on TV...actors or athletes that make more money than most people will ever see in their life, and to me, I have the right to judge them. As far as regular people, I couldn't fathom making fun of a person at work or in a classroom, unless they were overtly doing something to stand out...like being a white gangster or something, and I wouldn't do it with them around, I might just do it talking to a mutual acquaintence in a private setting.

Anyway, I guess my point is, I personally wish I was neurotypical and was never bullied and just led a relatively normal life, and thought the way most people do. I mean, like I said, my brother is NT, but he has his random interests and isn't a tool. He just doesn't have the physical quirks and is better looking than me.


No I have never wished to be NT. Think about it like this: The mentally ret*d are almost always happy, do you wish to be ret*d? Besides I don't understand what you talk about physical quirks (maybe that has to do with my father requiring me to workout from an early age, even though I still have some of my primitive reflexes).

Like they say: "The grass is always greener on the other side". Your an aspie...it is part of you just like your race and family...get use to it.



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05 Feb 2010, 9:19 am

I'm new to the labels of AS and NT. Before I knew there were such conditions, I never wanted to be like the people I've known who were capable of treating other people in really shoddy ways. People who were capable of violence as a means to bolster their sense of superiority and entitlement. People who could take your job and/or your home away from you, smile about it, and still sleep at night. People who would make you stay outside in -20 weather because you were a minute late getting home. People who were always right, no matter what, even if they were wrong, and would get obnoxious and belligerent trying to defend their indefensible positions. People who know everything and have experienced nothing. People who do the most illogical things because they can, and anyone who dares to call them on it gets a shot in the head. People who scheme and plot to screw over people who are not like them. I could go on, but I think you see the point.

Never having knowingly met another person on the autistic spectrum, I can only assume the people I have known who fit the above criteria were neruotypical. All people who fit that description can't be as horrible as the ones I've known. Some of them must be nice. Somewhere, there must be people without any trace of autism who live well and treat others the way they would like to be treated, are reasonable, kind, approachable, informed, have a sense of humor, and live by a code of honor. If only because of the law of averages, there must be. But I don't know any.

I couldn't behave like the ways I've described. I couldn't talk myself into believing that it was all right to treat people that way. I couldn't convince myself that wrong was right, and that no other point of view is possible. If that's what it's like to be someone not on the autistic spectrum, I wouldn't trade the way I am for anything.



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05 Feb 2010, 9:54 am

If I was 100% NT I don't think I'd be me anymore. I just see AS as a label that happens to coincide with some parts of my personality. Things aren't always easy, but I don't think they are for anyone. Personally I don't think being completely normal would be worth losing the ridiculous pointless things that so often make me grin inanely and feel so happy.



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07 Feb 2010, 1:04 pm

therange wrote:
I think there is a lot of stereotyping on here that all NTs are loud party-animals that are rude to their own kind and especially to people who aren't like them. My brother is NT, is a year younger than me, and is a nice guy that isn't a tool and is an individual.

I personally wish whatever was "different" about me in appearance, body language, behavior, and speech would go away. Sure, then I would have to make a life in the real world and wouldn't have any setbacks to use as excuses, but I'd rather blend in and be "normal" than live the current life I'm living.

To get this on the topic of love and dating...I am attracted to NT women. I don't mean the stereotypical college-aged party girl that has no substance...or extremely outgoing women...I just mean normal women that don't have quirks. I honestly think while there are a lot of pricks out there, there are a lot of pricks that aren't NT as well. To quote Hope, it isn't an NT or Aspie thing.

The reason I don't identify with a lot of people isn't because I have Aspergers. It's because I'm a nice person, and only identify with other nice people. I can't fathom how people can be so mean to each other. Sure, I'm guilty of being judgmental at times, but that's usually about people on TV...actors or athletes that make more money than most people will ever see in their life, and to me, I have the right to judge them. As far as regular people, I couldn't fathom making fun of a person at work or in a classroom, unless they were overtly doing something to stand out...like being a white gangster or something, and I wouldn't do it with them around, I might just do it talking to a mutual acquaintence in a private setting.

Anyway, I guess my point is, I personally wish I was neurotypical and was never bullied and just led a relatively normal life, and thought the way most people do. I mean, like I said, my brother is NT, but he has his random interests and isn't a tool. He just doesn't have the physical quirks and is better looking than me.


There are countless days I wish I were NT, but then I wouldn't be me. I wish I could relate to people better sometimes and I wish I didn't have mood swings, but other than that, I shouldn't complain.



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07 Feb 2010, 11:33 pm

Sometimes I wish I were to see what it's like. But other times, no.