therange wrote:
I think there is a lot of stereotyping on here that all NTs are loud party-animals that are rude to their own kind and especially to people who aren't like them. My brother is NT, is a year younger than me, and is a nice guy that isn't a tool and is an individual.
I personally wish whatever was "different" about me in appearance, body language, behavior, and speech would go away. Sure, then I would have to make a life in the real world and wouldn't have any setbacks to use as excuses, but I'd rather blend in and be "normal" than live the current life I'm living.
To get this on the topic of love and dating...I am attracted to NT women. I don't mean the stereotypical college-aged party girl that has no substance...or extremely outgoing women...I just mean normal women that don't have quirks. I honestly think while there are a lot of pricks out there, there are a lot of pricks that aren't NT as well. To quote Hope, it isn't an NT or Aspie thing.
The reason I don't identify with a lot of people isn't because I have Aspergers. It's because I'm a nice person, and only identify with other nice people. I can't fathom how people can be so mean to each other. Sure, I'm guilty of being judgmental at times, but that's usually about people on TV...actors or athletes that make more money than most people will ever see in their life, and to me, I have the right to judge them. As far as regular people, I couldn't fathom making fun of a person at work or in a classroom, unless they were overtly doing something to stand out...like being a white gangster or something, and I wouldn't do it with them around, I might just do it talking to a mutual acquaintence in a private setting.
Anyway, I guess my point is, I personally wish I was neurotypical and was never bullied and just led a relatively normal life, and thought the way most people do. I mean, like I said, my brother is NT, but he has his random interests and isn't a tool. He just doesn't have the physical quirks and is better looking than me.
No I have never wished to be NT. Think about it like this: The mentally ret*d are almost always happy, do you wish to be ret*d? Besides I don't understand what you talk about physical quirks (maybe that has to do with my father requiring me to workout from an early age, even though I still have some of my primitive reflexes).
Like they say: "The grass is always greener on the other side". Your an aspie...it is part of you just like your race and family...get use to it.