Online and Foreign Dating

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I am an Aspy and was wandering whar other peoples opinions were about online dating or foreign dating? Is going to Peru, Colombia, Ukraine or Thailand for 3 months to live with some girl a bad idea?

Online dating is not a problem with me, but moving abroad is a decision that should be very carefully thought through.

How long have you known this lady?

Not moving abroad, just visiting to start. I have been talking to her for about 3 months now.

I don't see what's wrong with cross country relationships. Liveing with them is another thing. I am slightly aquainted with a married couple who formed their bond across the seas between United States, and Ireland. (did I spell it right? probably not ) They did visit each other many times, likely. It took her at least 7 years to become a citizen of my country. (I admit, that length in time really sucks.) To boot, you have the internet to communicate across the world with.

No, not if you have known her for a while. I wouldn't rush into it.

you shouldn't move abroad for the express purpose of getting women. that'll blow up in your face. If you're just going to meet a woman in particular that you met online, thats okay. If you're going because of a career change or because maybe you like the place itself, that's also fine. Moving to be closer to family (or farther away from, as the case may be) is a good reason. But moving just because you think you'll be able to meet women in the new place is just plain stupid.

What is a good arbitrary # of months of talking to a person online before meeting them like 3, 6, 9, 12?

You can't really place a number on it. You should know a person really well before you travel abroad to see them.

Even then maybe start with 1 week visit or something.

Exactly 3.46.

Now go; get out there. Travel abroad is good for you and if you're young and can afford it, then more's the better. Who cares what happens. Experience life. There are no guarantees and you can never know what will happen. You can marry a girl you've dated for twelve years and then have things fall apart in six months. If things go bad, consider it your opportunity to learn how to take lumps. The sun is shining. Why wait?

Or would you rather put in Dragon Age Origins and spend the next 120 hours in front of your XBOX?

I always say this is something people shouldn't do, the idea of travelling abroad or long distance to meet an online partner. You really are talking a step into the unknown. I've had a bunch of online friendships, even relationships in the past. They were not from Peru, Colombia, Thailand or the Ukraine, but invariably from conservative rural America. There was always something that would have made it unfeasible to take it offline, such as them always having other offline or online partners. But if you find it expedient enough, enough of a necessity, to meet an online girlfriend face to face, I say go for it.

There are women in Peru who would be interested in someone with AS???

I am dating with a girl from latvia (from Netherlands my self) for a good 18 months now, I visited her when I knew her for not much more then a month. If you can, go for it, but don't dive to deep. Know what to do when you arrive on the airfield and no one is there to wait for your arrival.

I stayed with her for 2 weeks, went back for a few days and then stayed for 2 months with her. In the beginning it looked quite good, we where both socially withdrawn kinda. But in my case everything starts to fall apart now, for the last 16 months she has been with me in Netherlands. While in my case things are not so good anymore, it could and prolly will work out better for you.

to comment on Keeno: I fell through or online chatting so in love with her that i couldn't concentrate my self on my study anymore and had to meet her to either be disapointed or have a nice girlfriend.

That's the best way to go. I've always heard that people should wait at least a year before getting engaged and making long-term plans with someone.

Why wouldn't there be?

Might I add, that if you are going to visit her, please have a great time! *