What would you want in your dream partner?

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I recently visited my sister and she was compiling a list of attributes she would like in a mate, this was an exercise recommended by a friend who went through a divorce just like my sister is going through.

My list would include:

Ambitious
Independent
Has an income
Healthy boundaries with friends, and family
Puts self on top of the list
Smart
Imaginative
Sense of humor
Around my age
Volunteers
Plays an instrument or has background in music
My only physical desire, must be woman

Hope that gets the conversation going.

Go wild!

That I find her physically attractive, she likes to shop, talk, but isn't the bar/club type of person, is outgoing, the kind I could introduce to my family but also be turned on by physically.

Intelligent, Sense of humor, shy, Wants to stay at home all the time, much older then me, loves to eat, dresses odd, practices AT LEAST the minimum requirements of hygiene, Doesn't mind waking up next to a makeup streaked face, loves reading, loves silence, loves furless cats/dogs.

Assuming the person will not expect emotional things I cannot deliver (this is a naive assumption, see Spock - Uhura) I want:
Basically just someone that visits me once in a while, and if there is to be sex, I would like the person to be a woman and attractive to me.

There.
One relationship may work for a while, but eventually all aircraft of love crash into the mountain that is my reciprocity (very vague metaphor, the point is; there is very little reciprocation).

Well, she must be kind, pretty and intelligent. She must also be unlike all other women so as to be compatible with me

Forgive me Jeff, but I read your post, and I assumed you were a woman. That list looks a lot like how many women would describe their perfect man. I found it a bit curious. But then I realised as aspies we tend to have different needs to NT men, and so I can understand why it is so. I wonder if there are any male housewives here at WP.

Can cook, can clean, doesn't talk back, hot, isn't bitchy, and will wear whatever I buy him.

crap... I was on a roll until i saw the last one...

As long as you can promise to not buy me flamboyant colors or hot pink, then maybe...

What, he can't buy his own clothes?

If I ever found myself single again:

http://www.youtube.com/user/alyankovic? ... 9qYF9DZPdw

That would be the perfect guy.

My dream partner must be physically attractive; clean cut; not much taller than I am because I'm so petite; must understand me and my quirks; must be supportive; we must share many of the same interests and ideals.

If I still belived in love:

One of two ways, it cannot be crossed over
or it will confuse me and cause malfunctions:

Mode 01: If she is going to be the "dominant" kind
or the feminist kind or whatever it is called, I can't
do words very well. Then she must be the one
who takes care of me, my every need, bathe me,
wash me, feed me, clothe me, change me,
and be the example she wants me to be
not confuse me by doing one thing and
saying another, this will confuse me and cause
tantrums, I only know what I see, I cannot remember being
told things, I will follow by example regardless
of what she tells me, the whole kilometre,
no abuse or taking advantage of me,
this will also cause major malfunctions.

Mode 02: If she be the non dominant or passive
type, then she must allow me to take the lead,
I run the house, the expenses, I have 90% say
in how the family is run.

Must be kept to One way or the Other or, it will cause malfunctions
or seizures or other disfunctions if there is crossover,
call me "handicapped" or "defective" if you must but
this is how I am, this is how I will stay, I cannot
be altered.


Physical, I think large women or "BBW" as they
are aoften called are very attractive, but not required.

Oh, I LOVE this thread!

Adventurous
Highly sensual/sexual
Independent

Biologically female.
Not overly sensitive.
An immature streak so that she's not a constant killjoy that takes everything too seriously.
A beautiful rack of horns.
Soft fur and impressive udders.
And most importantly: she's got to like me, too.

not xenophobic in any way. (is that redundant?)

doesn't care what kind of sheets are on the bed as long as they are clean.

doesn't expect me not to be a nerd.

likes to think about things or at least doesn't mind that I like to think about everything.

clean and sober

doesn't live her life ruled by appearances and what other people think

looks are not specific, she should look like herself, how she wants to look, body type isn't important but I prefer not really skinny people.

someone who likes real things that are kind of old and not shiny new things and accumulating a bunch of crap and possessions because I really don't think I can live in that environment.

not xenophobic in any way. (is that redundant?)

doesn't care what kind of sheets are on the bed as long as they are clean.

doesn't expect me not to be a nerd.

likes to think about things or at least doesn't mind that I like to think about everything.

clean and sober

doesn't live her life ruled by appearances and what other people think

looks are not specific, she should look like herself, how she wants to look, body type isn't important but I prefer not really skinny people.

someone who likes real things that are kind of old and not shiny new things and accumulating a bunch of crap and possessions because I really don't think I can live in that environment.