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27 Mar 2010, 11:28 pm

What does it feel like it's not like we have a status screen that tells us what we are feeling



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28 Mar 2010, 5:27 am

for me love feels like anything is possible.....thats just me though



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28 Mar 2010, 6:44 am

I can be myself around my girlfriend and she loves me for it, and vice versa. I think us Aspies value how important that is more than most people who take such things for granted.



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28 Mar 2010, 7:16 am

It seems the more I read about this forum, the less I understand about love? I can envision sexual attraction, but can't imagine anything else. Is my AS that bad?



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28 Mar 2010, 7:25 am

01001011 wrote:
It seems the more I read about this forum, the less I understand about love? I can envision sexual attraction, but can't imagine anything else. Is my AS that bad?


It's hard for anyone to imagine such things, NTs included. Love is a highly complex emotion for the human mind to comprehend.



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28 Mar 2010, 7:31 am

But if I can't understand a loving relation, I don't see how I can be having one... (over analyzing again?)



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28 Mar 2010, 9:16 am

For me, part of it's intense, giddy confusion, especially in the beginning. It seems to settle into something calm and caring - and the profound quality deepens. I feel toward the other person that I want to protect them.

It's like flying beside someone. It's very parallel.



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28 Mar 2010, 9:42 am

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There just aren't enough good words to separate and define all the various aspects of what we lump together as 'love'.

The feeling of being in love for me is no one particular thing. I tend to go through various stages with various different complex feelings and emotions in each. There's the classic warmth, butterflies, tingles. Light headedness. A feeling of full body stimulation. Then there's the painful side. You might ache, you might feel lonely when your loved one is not with you. One can feel twisted or crushed. Sometimes the feelings of love are confusion, anxiety, or fear. Sometimes it's good and bad, a kind of exquisite agony. You might realise that the love you feel now will fade, loved ones come and go, live and die.

That covers maybe a small part of the whole shebang.

Overall though it's great, even the downsides.



Is the pain ever physical?



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28 Mar 2010, 9:47 am

English_Chick_21 wrote:
for me love feels like anything is possible.....thats just me though



This is really beautiful!



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28 Mar 2010, 9:53 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:
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For me It's when I have the most pure state of mind, and it feels like I'll never be mad, sad, worried, anxious, depressed, etc.


That's nothing like how I experience it!


I'd have to agree with jeff. Whenever I was with my ex, the storm of thought in my head actually went away and my thoughts became calm and clear for the first time in my life... I was actually able to sit there and not be thinking about something or another. It was such a transcendental experience, and I'm sad that I will never be able to feel that again :cry:



That must be quite a feeling. But why won't you be able to love like that again?



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28 Mar 2010, 11:58 am

Ebonwinter wrote:
What does it feel like it's not like we have a status screen that tells us what we are feeling
That would be useful.
Differences between love and affection, what are they?
It is really confusing to have so many words.



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28 Mar 2010, 12:46 pm

hanazai wrote:
Moog wrote:
There just aren't enough good words to separate and define all the various aspects of what we lump together as 'love'.

The feeling of being in love for me is no one particular thing. I tend to go through various stages with various different complex feelings and emotions in each. There's the classic warmth, butterflies, tingles. Light headedness. A feeling of full body stimulation. Then there's the painful side. You might ache, you might feel lonely when your loved one is not with you. One can feel twisted or crushed. Sometimes the feelings of love are confusion, anxiety, or fear. Sometimes it's good and bad, a kind of exquisite agony. You might realise that the love you feel now will fade, loved ones come and go, live and die.

That covers maybe a small part of the whole shebang.

Overall though it's great, even the downsides.



Is the pain ever physical?


I feel it in my body. So yes!


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28 Mar 2010, 3:41 pm

When you are an Aspie and in love, it feels like the greatest thing in the world.



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28 Mar 2010, 7:59 pm

If you just ran a marathon and needed to pee during the whole 26 miles, the brief moment of relief right after you pee coupled with the fastly beating heart is kind of what it feels like.


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28 Mar 2010, 8:08 pm

hanazai wrote:
That must be quite a feeling. But why won't you be able to love like that again?


Because the woman i loved broke up with me... and i doubt i'd ever be able to find another woman that would love me at all...



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28 Mar 2010, 8:30 pm

Toad, I'm sorry to disagree with you, but what you experienced wasn't love. From your posts, it seems like any girl could have given you attention and you would have appreciated it. That isn't love.

I'm trying to stay away from your posts, because you have a therapist, and if he/she is good, he/she should be upfront with you, but when you talk about this girl, what you experienced was just being grateful that a female gave you the time of day. And you might not believe it, but there will be others. Even Danny Devito is married.