do you find autistic girls attractive?

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windscar, why don't you post pictures or names of more than one attractive autistic girl, unless you were only talking personality-wise. It seems interesting. Maybe some autistic girls are so naturally attractive because they have that special interest of taking care of themselves. It's possible.

That's a very good answer! Yes (for me anyway) many Aspie (and sometimes Aute) girls are very attrative to me for a number of reasons....

1. They are fellow members of our community nuff said!

2. Most of the girls that I've known that are on the spectrum come across as very femamie, the reasons are nataraly their own. But the most common one that I've come across in my time are that as sterotypes (like it or not) often appeal to us greatly we often inpose them on ourselves! That is often why an Aspie male (like myself) will come across as very 'matcho', it only makes sense that an Aspie female will often try to (at the very least) 'act' fenamie. Don't get me wrong many are often very fenamine, even though they may also have some 'tomboyish' trates as well.

3. I don't want to sound sexest (even though it's not really a sexest thing to say, some idots do think this) or to be taking advatage or pleasure out of other peoples suffering, (and I'm sure that many other men will feel the same way) but when ever I'm told (or read) stories about Aspie girls being bullied in school or getting misundertood by their parents (and the like) I just want to charge in and save them like a Knight in shinning armor! Happily (in my experce anyway) they'll often see things more or less the same way.

4. Of course their is the incressed desre for indipencnce that works very well in their favor too. However that said a few of the girls that I've known do like to just let others take care of them, (I must confess that that is want my dream girl would be like!! !) as from the way I see things it does not really matter if you are indpendet or not, just so long as you are happy and your life is (as much as humanly possible)

5. The fact that they sometimes live in-for the most part-girly fantasy worlds is cool too as they'll have very high standerds even if they can't be met, it comes across as cute!! !!

I'm such sexest an't I??? But that's why I can be (sometimes just so long as they are as girly as possilbe) attrcted to them. Don't give up competly on NT girls however as sometimes they are just as cool too, but I really hope that (at least among my fellow Aspies) we can get rid of the negatve sterotypes of Aspie girls as, Drama Queens, robots, Spoiled brats, ugly biches (even if beuty is only realtve), and workahlocs who care about nothing but themselves!

Yes those kinds of girls do exsit in our communty but often they'll only be like that due to their be put in care homes (and the like) and not being given clearer instructions an how to funchion in the world.

I'm not calling for a cure for AS, or for everyone to just go round faking NT behavour but the reason why an AS girl will often be seen as 'ugly' by many people is because they don't know that they are seen in that way!! !

If any of you out there are paents of any children with AS who also happen to be girls. By all means let them be themselves but also from an early age try and teach them how how to make themselves 'seem less Autstic'. Mimicing is one way (and can sometimes be very fun for some, but they'll have to be careful not to take it too far) and to feel free to tell them when they look 'a mess' and how to do self grooming skills, as you are unlikely (provided that you tell her nicely) to make a better effort to look nice (or, if need be act polite and demure.) The rest should fix it's self on it's own.

As I have said I've met quite a number of Aspie girls (and many male Aspies) in my time and got on very well with them and I'm quite sure that if I were one I'd find the phase 'extreme male brain' insluting. (I don't as I'm a man anyway.) From what I know Aspie girls quite often have exrteme FEMALE brains as they make an extra effort to be femamine even if they do at times still like to have lot's of order in their lives they do still have many fenemine trates .

After all why is it that so many Aspie girls are devoted to their pets? Why do they often desire romance over sex (sometimes they even hate it!! !) Why are they often so well mannered and polite? Why are they often so careing and generus? Why do they see the world in more emotional trems than us men (ie they'll be more likely to remember their own familes at Christmas and the like,) ? Why is it so rare to find a Aspie girl who does not express herself so much (more so than the men) with her face and hands? And much much more!! !

I've not seen any man with AS with all of those trates, granted I've met some who may have a few of them. But not one Aspie man has all of them.

I hope that you found this useful.

Goodbye, Till Next Time

P.S. And yes I do also think that the often very childlike nieve view of the world is cute too, not to menchen the way some of them that I've seen the pritty ones dress, on the net they are in one word WOW!! !! !!

Don't know. There's the obvious feeling of oneness with them, and the shared experiences and needs.......but autistic people are all different from each other and from me. Most of them probably wouldn't be suitable.

I know one local Aspie lady quite well. I've often wondered whether I'd go for her if my circumstances were a bit different. I feel a very strong sense of friendship with her, and I think we've become quite important to each other, but I also get a feeling that if we had a relationship, I'd soon find that there were a lot of things missing that I've come to expect from a partner. She's extremely headstrong and can seem quite heartless at times.......she doesn't seem to inflict that stuff on me at all, but then I haven't needed to contradict her or pour cold water on any of her ideas yet.

I'm a girl with Asperger's and I've never felt attractive. Ever. I gained a lot of weight at the start of puberty about 11 years ago and never was able to shake it. This contributes to my lack of self esteem and my dating failures.

I've had two relationships, both of which turned out terribly (the longest being two months). I initiated both of them and things were okay for a short while. The first was in high school and the bastard never kissed me but made a point of it to make out with his friend Matt in front of me to make me cry. He broke up with me over Runescape (LAME). The second was in college and he seemed sooo nice but then he turned out to be a cheater who took advantage of my Aspie naivete.

I don't understand it, I like to think I'm being careful in my selections but it never works out for me. My instinct is to think that it's my fault. If I were good enough, they wouldn't have treated me that way. If I were good enough, I wouldn't have to worry about being my mother's only hope for grandchildren (my brother doesn't even try to date, lazy jerk). My friends keep saying that someone will find me but I'm incredibly impatient (a fault of mine I know). I wonder if I were a normal girl, would I not have such a problem? I don't know. D:

autistic girls analyze the sex as they are doing it. " would you prefer if I bended my knees in an 180 degree posture as you conveniently slide behind me in an attempt to thrust your genitalia into my vagina"?

"Does your anatomy enjoy the way that I gravitate up and down as you penetrate me"

such a turn on.

think about how confusing an autistic girl would be. Normal girls are already confusing but the autistic girl takes it to the next level. You are sure to get arrested if you date an autistic girl.

I consider shyness to be rather attractive in a girl regardless of her being autistic or not. Shyness almost always is a symptom of a sharp mind and a kind heart.