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39yr old Aspie here

I have lived in social oblivion for the first 35 years of my life
My school, university and work life were socially empty.

I've realized these shortcomings last few years and actually tried to make a difference
but not much avail. Still can't make much small talk or escalate conversations.

I realized that i was not "normal" when most of my childhood friends started evolving their lives, eg got married and no longer hung out with me as I was single etc.
Of course my attempts or lack of at dating further magnified this.

I'm actually quite good at many special interests, cooking, carpentry, academics, sports, gym. Worst part is a lot of people actually find I am a pretty fit looking person.
Still can't make anything out of it though.

Knowing my shortcomings and failing at trying to overcome them is quite a bitter pill to swallow. Its easy for people to recommend things for Aspies to improve but almost impossible for me to do.

Okay.

Undiagnosed as a kid. My parents were utterly clueless and pretty incapable of bringing up a normal kid, let alone me. They were (mostly) good people and meant well. They just didn't know how to raise kids. SELF HELP books, people!

Bullied in junior high pretty much constantly. Had about 4-5 close friends while growing up, so I wasn't completely isolated. In contrast to JH, high school was a great experience!

Total computer and Star Trek geek in my teens and early 20s. Had the usual anti social behavior. 12 hours on the computer, Star Trek re-runs, video games. No GF to speak of, although I was (and still am) good looking so girls were practically falling at my feet. Many many of them over the years. I was too clueless to do anything with it. :-/

Went to war at age 18-19. Experienced horrible things that are best left unsaid. It left permanent scars. After the war I worked a stable job with adequate pay throughout my 20s, but with no possibility of a promising career, no future, no social life, no car, and I was about 30-40 lbs overweight. I basically lost my 20s to a combination of undiagnosed autism and PTSD. The only really nice thing I had was my home. It's always been furnished and decorated well, and neat and orderly. It still is.

Kind of woke up around age 30. Got a better paying job; an actual career with an office and a business card and everything. Got a car. Fixed some health problems which I've been ignoring. Finally started fricken dating! Started eating well and working out. Lost all my extra weight.

These days I have lots of friends, a well paying job, several hobbies. I compete in endurance sports and pretty much look like a hunk. My computer is old and I like it that way. I don't watch TV much. I read books instead. I take care of myself, how I look, what I eat, and dress, etc...

Still no long term relationship. That too will come. I'm pretty happy with where I am right now.

I give out my name as little as possible on the internet.
I have suspected that I have some form of autism since I was ten, but no noticed until earlier this year. They tell me I might have Asperger's.
I'm sixteen, an atheist, and some more stuff. I play the guitar often, though I have no desire to listen to music. I tend to keep to myself most of the time, because I don't enjoy getting wrapped up in people's personal lives. I don't associate with people too much, more often because I do not like their character, rather than my being socially awkward. Because, I am awkward. This doesn't bother me, because I like making people think , if I haven't already made them uncomfortable. I have only had a few real friends growing up, all of which, unfortunately moved away at some point. My best friend at this point is my boyfriend of almost two years, who probably also has AS. He's basically
I used to be one of those kids that were deathly quiet, until I started public school in the eighth grade. Before this, I was home-schooled, which compounded my awkwardness to the umpteenth degree.
I decided I didn't like public school.
So now I go to a private school with a bunch of cool autistic people and some people who got kicked out of school. Life couldn't be better.

Well, my name is Ian Cleary and I'm 17, humanist atheist, Spirish(Spanish-Irish) and have typical dark brown hair and dark brown eyes. I'm on the verge of graduating from the eleventh grade. I was diagnosed at 12 or 13 and before that, people said I had ADD like my mother. Right now, I'm in cyberschool because I caved into pressure in the beginning of the school year, but as I miss the little social interaction I made in public school, I'm going back for 12th. I'm a person who can get interested in many things and who doesn't really mind talking about other things that I don't like except for sports, but my main interests are culture, sci-fi, fantasy dragons, animals, star wars, weapon choreography, language, tabletop games, and marine biology. I'm also getting into writing and have an on and off mild obsession with anime/manga. Out of the many aspies that I have met, I seem to have the mildest symptoms, but they were worse when I was younger. I can make small talk with strangers rather well, I'm all right with making eye contact, and like I said, I don't mind letting people talk about their interests. The main reason why I don't make friends is that I'm very shy, especially with people my age, but I can talk to adults and kids just fine. Because of this, most people at school think I'm normal, just really smart and kind of nerdy, but some know that there is something different about me. I do have sensory issues with my feet and often walk tip-toed as if I had a dichotomous gait. I was born with motor skills issus, but a year of constant typing and my devotion to practicing lightsaber choreography has reduced my issues. I'm also afraid of balloons.

I find it disturbing that I'm alone all the time, with little friends to keep me company, and I'm working to change that, because being alone makes me incredibly bored all the time. But yeah, anyways, that's my story.

My AS credentials are not as rock-solid as other people- I don't like a lot of things that seem to turn on AS people- sci-fi, computer games, anime (hermaphroditic people with giant eyes), or science in general. I work for a government agency that cares for ret*d adults, and that isn't a bad place to work, since the MR business seems to attract AS people like flies to honey, so I am surrounded by swarms of them at work. I have a few NT friends.
I am separated from my ex for a year and a half without the divorce yet being finalized. I find women both tiresome and fascinating, but I am stuck with them, since I find male bodies repulsive ( I always hated gym class), so I amof course 100.000% straight.
The sheer alienness of how women think endless captivates me- I can't understand a lot of female ideas: (1) Talking about problems helps solve them. No talk doesn't, only action does, and ifr you can't solve them, you can always escape them temporarily by having a drink or doing something fun. (2) Feeling bad after sex. Huh?? OK the sex wasn't the right time or the right guy, but guys never feel bad about any sex, unless it was a really ugly girl, in which case your friends will have a good laugh at your expense., (3) Enjoying the whole white-collar office thing. I notice that women get into meetings, job titles, etiquette, degrees, and rules in general. I have a union job where I can't be fired, and when I go into an office, for example when I have to go to the dentist and I have to run a gauntlet of suspicious receptionists, I can't help laughing.

Élodie. 22 years-old. Female. Mother tongue: French. Single. Live alone. Attend church every Sunday. Like litterature and theology so much. Like detective novels a lot. Like Italian food. Wants to share what is like being an Aspie with other Aspies.

I'm Matt and I'm a 21 year old aspie from california. Im currently studying psyhcology. In apologize for my horrible grammar i dont usually type this way

Hi all, this is Melbi from Gold Coast, Australia.

I love animals, especially mammals eg. dolphins, pandas, dogs etc etc

In uni at the moment, studying something to do with teeth and the oral cavity.

I love mountains, I want buy a house in the mountains one day, beside a creek.

And I love watching DVDs at home with friend(s) or my puppy

Talk more in the future, bye for now!

hi im phil!

i live in canada but was born in germany, never diagnosed here but my mother has said that she wanted to leave germany because at a young age doctors started hinting that i might be on the AS or have aspergers (and in germany they wouldve at the time have tried to be very controlling of me and might have considered putting me on meds) so in Canada no such problems occured i was just a bit of a weirdo growing up.

recently, after a looong period of aimless wandering and depression and introverted behaviour, i came to a crossroads and decided to pull myself together, and coincidentally i met my beautiful girlfriend around my 'emergence into society' and ive been happy since! recently ive been starting to slowly revert to my old behaviour but i have lots of support from friends, even more from becky (my girl) and most importantly, some sort of desire within myself to do things that would only be hindered by my old behaviour, so therefore i feel i have the will to cope with this situation!

i train in muay thai, brazilian jiu jitsu and i wrestle and swim! i love to play video games, hang out with friends and i like finding things to make myself laugh, i have read alot on this board and have been touched by many of these stories, i look forward to frequenting here often

Hi my name is Adam.

I'm 27, I was born in Australia, and moved to the UK at the age of 11. I did all of my high schooling in the United Kingdom, and moved back to Aus after five years.

I have always had a passion for the English language and the arts. So I did Professional Writing and Drama as my majors in uni. I am a very shy person, and the only time I really feel confident is when I'm playing another character onstage. I did my postgraduate Masters degree in Education, majoring in teaching English as a second language.

I am currently looking for full time teaching work, and volunteering with teaching Chinese migrants English. I work part time in data entry, which is decent money, but not terribly exciting, and I feel is below what I am capable of. Job interviews daunt me a lot, and I find them very hard.

My hobbies include reading books (especially classic literature, like Shakespeare, Dickens, etc; and science fiction), movies and TV( I love sci fi the most, Star Trek, Star Wars, Dr Who, Firefly, etc); videogames; music; going on walks.

I feel like I was born out of time. I relate far more to older people, than those my age. I don't particularly fit into Gen Y very well, and like to act like a gentleman from an earlier era.

As I said, I am very shy in social situations. I have not had problems academically, but in social scenarios, I am hopeless. As a result, I have not had a GF at all yet. Never even been kissed. I look for someone with similar values to me. They don't neccesarily need to share my specific music/film/book tastes etc, but they need to be someone I can laugh with, share my thoughts with, feel like I can be myself around them, and above all, they must have a good, kind heart. Some are attracted to brains, others to body, I am attracted to someone with a kind personality.

Name I go by my initials CR and I fix electronic things for a living-mid 40's no relationships to speak of-very alone-not pretty or desirable by anyone it seems-I am a big guy-been working on getting smaller-actually am smaller now than when I was in high school-a little too late unfortunately-now that I know I have AS-things seem to make sense now but with the isolation and social awkwardness all these years its going to be hard to catch up with my NT peers that are socially adept.

I'm Julian. Thats all. Perhaps a little less.

Hi, my name Sean...

I'm a bit of an introvert, but I never shy away from either an opinion or healthly plate of snark. I'm from NY orginally and have picked up some of that madcap city's more annoying personal habits, such as a loud voice, a forth-right opinion on EVERYTHING, a love of sports, a tendency to dismiss other regions of the country out-of-hand /snark, and a love of really good ethnic food.

I love comic books, especially '70s-'80s X-Men and DC's animated series', really high-quality anime (not no moe or harem junk ), the CCG Magic: The Gathering, good British comedy (Monty Python FTW!), a good pint of Guinness, history, soccer, baseball, and hockey.

My prefered sports teams are the NY Mets, NJ Devils, Manchester City FC, Celtic FC and FC St Pauli 1910.

My politics are of the liberal persusion, very towards democratic socialist depending on the issue. If you want a quick descriptor, 'radical leftist nationalist' would do just fine.

I'm straight, and slave for beautiful, and opinionated, Mediterraen woman.

Hello, my name is Megan. I'm 2 weeks shy of turning 21, I'm a professional writing major and a literature minor at a state school. I'll be graduating from there next spring. I'm involved with my school's Medieval Renaissance Club where we hold a dinner theatre in the winter and a faire in the spring. I love anime, (Lucky Star, D.Gray-man, Hetalia, etc.), Red vs. blue, videogames (rpgs mainly) and I make jewelry for fun.

Hey, my name is Daniel, and I'm a 24-year-old computer programmer living in Phoenix, Arizona. I'm easily excitable when I'm feeling comfortable, shy when not, and I'm incredibly impulsive. Yep, I'm admitting it. I have a nasty habit of randomly trying to convince people to do crazy things at a moment's notice, like "hey, let's go camping RIGHT NOW!" I don't expect anyone to say yes, but when they do, I never turn it down. How would that look?

I'm pretty awkward in groups, and I'm very shy when first meeting people. But once I open up, I can talk 3 miles a minute and get into a frenzy of excitement you'll probably never see from 90% of the rest of the population.

Little things excite me, even buying new things from the grocery store. You have no idea how happy trying a new brand or type of bread or bacon or what-have-you makes me. It seriously makes my day. Or my week. I smile every time I look at it.

I spend a lot of time toning that down for others to make myself seem normal. It's tough when I'm at work, feeling like whatever project I'm working on is the greatest thing since the invention of the internet, but I manage to keep it (mostly) under wraps.

I started programming when I was about 10, wrote my first MUD engine and client when I was 11. I built several more between then and now, but I haven't had a good personal project like that in at least 3 years. I always feel like a part of me has died when I move on from a project, and moving on is inevitable. I feel the itch returning, though, and this time, I'm going graphical--assuming I ever do it. I've spent the past 2 years jotting random notes and refining my ideas, and I can't wait til I can get over the loss I felt after shutting the last game down.

Fun Fact: I'm obsessed with mountain lions, and I'm terrified of them. Secretly, I also want to fight one with my bare hands.

Anyway, that should sum me up pretty nicely.

Hi all my name is Annette Im 37 and Im from Brisbane Queensland Australia. I am short with brown hair slowly going grey and brown eyes my nickname is Yoda due to how short I am and the fact I do a good impression of Yoda . The best way to describe myself would be Im just like Sheldon from the big bang theory my unit also looks just like the set from the big bang theory with science fiction memrobila scattered everywhere. I have a habit of being completely out there and have a warped sense of humour which some people find amusing or defensive. I have no dress sense at all Im not into the latest fashions. I love going to the movies at least twice a week I love Action movies, science fiction and car movies. I have a habit of talking under wet cement especially when I get nervous. I am abit of a joker and can be hyperactive especially if you give me a packet of jelly beans and a can of sprite. I love Music whether its listening to music I love jazz, classical, opera, musicals and 80s music or playing the drums I mainly play jazz I have been playing the drums for 23 years. Im in a Arts and Craft group through the disablity agency I goto each week and a Health and Fitness Group. I also like the outdoors I find it relaxing I love 4x4 wheel driving and bush walking, quad bike riding and mountain bike riding. I also love the latest gadgets and playing any computer game console whether its xbox or Playstation 3. Im also involved with a Disablity Theatre Group where I help the support workers look after Adults with disablities. Im currently studying and training to become a support worker. I also do public speaking about Aspergers at Support worker meetings and I am currently writing a program "Activites for people with Aspergers" a program for people with Aspergers just activities that they can do during the week such as going to the museum, art gallery, science fiction conventions such as Supernova, arts and craft shops, arts and craft shows for the disablity agency I goto. My goal is to be able to talk at Aspergers Syndrome Conferences and talk to other disability agencies around Australia about the program I am currently writing.

My obssessions are collecting science fiction memrobila such as collecting anything to do with star wars and star trek especially anything to do with yoda and collecting anything to do with transformers especially bumblebee and collecting anything to do with the actor Jason Isaacs. I am obsessed with eating Subway meatball subways and love Dr Pepper, Jelly beans and Maltessers.