Never had a gf before

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I don't see why that is necessarily so.

All you're feeling is a fleeting rush of emotional chemicals meant by nature to ensure humans have the desire to propagate the species.

No. I was given a number by a girl while working as a cashier at Wal-Mart but couldn't gather the courage to call her out of fear of failure. It's one of my few regrets - if I could go back in time and do it over again I would have called that number. But hey, life goes on.

There has to be a match for everyone, it's just a matter of time and effort.

If that's what it is, then it's bloody nice.

You could probably also reduce the universe in such a way; oh, it's just a bunch of matter and energy floating in a void or something; nothing very interesting.

And is several months really fleeting? I suppose so. Life is fleeting. So what? Enjoy it. Don't avoid it.

amen to that...

Its always the first love that's the hardest...just roll with it and see what happens.

come on all.



It's time to rally our minds, we go to WAR AND BACK!! we fight with glory , we stick for ourselves, and stop believing this self-hatred b.s. I know i'm not alone, thank you for reminding me, I needed a good kick in the ass to realize the whole poor pity party game aint gonna work. I like what someone said earlier about the "real losers" thing, thats so true.

i have to be true to myself, and practice self-acceptance. So I'm a little behind? At least im practicing on match.com, with girls in class (and trying to rewire my brain into this: after I have a social interaction with a girl, DONT BEAT MYSELF UP for it not going the way i wanted it to, and thats due to my own social awkwardness that I cannot change unless I get to know the person on a more personal intimate level. For example, with my mom. I have my weird habits when with my mom but i am witty and totally sociable.) and at least I'm sober today thats all that friggen matters to me .

Baby steps fellow padowans and warriors, Baby steps..

Hey, I'm 22 and never had a boyfriend. I've had romantic interest in at least one guy though. I still doubt I'll ever date someone before I turn 80. I'll be that crazy old dog lady down the street.

I don't know what it is...I'm tired of being thought of a "nut" by family members...I wish I could figure out how to talk to girls and ask them out or even become good friends with some

all it is is counterfactual thinking. Theres nothing morally deficient about us. We can do this. I know over the past week i've tried... I've beaten myself up every time for a couple hours or more after i try, but thats just how i roll. Unfortunatley I learn from pain, I hope you guys dont, but its just the way im wired.

Aspergers isn't even a mental illness. we just lack/or have too much of something in us lol. There is nothing organically wrong with us. In fact, I know I can be quite humorous, it takes time to trust people and to make that "connection" with them before we can open up. It takes time for normal people too, but for us it takes a little longer if you know what i mean.

But after that we're aces, just gotta trust the process. I know I must.

I've dated two girls, and only had a brief relationship with one of those girls - that was years ago.

I wouldn't mind having a long-term relationship, if I find the right girl of course. Though at this stage I think having a girlfriend will get in the way of my studies, so I'm putting off any interest in actively finding one until further down the track.

My biggest overall mistake when it comes to dating and relationships? Not having the confidence to approach girls, and talk to them. I've learnt that if you go out, you can't expect girls to do the approaching - you rather are expected to approach them. I'm learning from my mistakes now, because my shyness is the biggest factor that prevented me over the years from making new friends, including girls.

i couldn't agree more with you slayer. its so easy easy to get resentful to and say f it.

Thanks for the reminder that I'm in the actions business and not in the results business, although I would like some results lol.