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22 Aug 2010, 3:54 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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Look, I thank you for wanting to help but I'm kind of getting tired of everyone PMing me and telling me their little secret to weight loss. It's a little overwhelming and I'm getting confused from all the advice. I'm pretty sure I don't have a disease and I don't want to pay a specialist thousands of dollars to run tests about it. I don't have the money for that stuff right now. I'm a college student with means I don't have money to throw around. I know y'all are trying to help and I'm not trying to be mean but just let me do my diet and exercise thing for a year and see how that goes. THEN maybe I'll go to a doctor. I still don't trust them. They just want my money, they don't want to see me get better. :/


I dont think you have polycystic ovaries, women with that usually have facial hair and acne.


Facial hair?
I have polycystic ovaries and have never had facial hair. They are often fat around the middle though. I hate it.

your very lucky! All the women Ive met with it do, and one has to use a special hormone cream on her face to stop her beard. In the UK you even get half price electrolisis with a Drs note saying you have polcystic ovaries.



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22 Aug 2010, 4:21 pm

The excessive hair growth and acne doesn't always have to be present.



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22 Aug 2010, 10:35 pm

I think just being oblivious to subtle games. Like not knowing how to play hard to get, not being able to improvise under pressure in social situations, etc. are big ones.



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24 Aug 2010, 3:06 am

Erisad wrote:
Look, I thank you for wanting to help but I'm kind of getting tired of everyone PMing me and telling me their little secret to weight loss. It's a little overwhelming and I'm getting confused from all the advice. I'm pretty sure I don't have a disease and I don't want to pay a specialist thousands of dollars to run tests about it. I don't have the money for that stuff right now. I'm a college student with means I don't have money to throw around. I know y'all are trying to help and I'm not trying to be mean but just let me do my diet and exercise thing for a year and see how that goes. THEN maybe I'll go to a doctor. I still don't trust them. They just want my money, they don't want to see me get better. :/


If you do it my way you will see weight loss within 2 weeks. If you cut the calories a bit more, to say, 1000 per day, you will definitely lose something within a week. You can't imagine the thrill of getting on the scales day after day and being like "holy s**t, did I really lose that much?" Once you've started you get incredibly motivated to continue, trust me.

Also, more than anything else, being a normal weight will increase your attractiveness to males more than any other factor you can control. (I'm assuming personality not controllable).



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24 Aug 2010, 3:18 am

Vindi wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Look, I thank you for wanting to help but I'm kind of getting tired of everyone PMing me and telling me their little secret to weight loss. It's a little overwhelming and I'm getting confused from all the advice. I'm pretty sure I don't have a disease and I don't want to pay a specialist thousands of dollars to run tests about it. I don't have the money for that stuff right now. I'm a college student with means I don't have money to throw around. I know y'all are trying to help and I'm not trying to be mean but just let me do my diet and exercise thing for a year and see how that goes. THEN maybe I'll go to a doctor. I still don't trust them. They just want my money, they don't want to see me get better. :/


If you do it my way you will see weight loss within 2 weeks. If you cut the calories a bit more, to say, 1000 per day, you will definitely lose something within a week. You can't imagine the thrill of getting on the scales day after day and being like "holy sh**, did I really lose that much?" Once you've started you get incredibly motivated to continue, trust me.

Also, more than anything else, being a normal weight will increase your attractiveness to males more than any other factor you can control. (I'm assuming personality not controllable).


cool. I should try it too. Its about time for me to ditch the podge. You have inspired me to start a new thread. Please feel free to post :)

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp3010566.html#3010566



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24 Aug 2010, 9:53 pm

Doing things that you don't realize come across as "creepy." "Creepy" being something that is "weird" or "abnormal" (to most NTs) with a romantic intent.



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25 Aug 2010, 12:01 pm

Space wrote:
Doing things that you don't realize come across as "creepy." "Creepy" being something that is "weird" or "abnormal" (to most NTs) with a romantic intent.


This sounds very familiar. I was talking with a coworker yesterday who is considered very pretty, and on paper by my standards is very pretty, yet not my particular thing. So when I was talking to her, I was normal, and things went well. I thought to myself later that had she been someone I found attractive, I probably would have been way too interested both during and after the conversation, and I probably would have gotten too personal too quickly, and smothered the budding work friendship, or made more of it than it was -- just polite conversation.