For stright guys. Are you ever asked if your gay?

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I've not only been asked if I was gay, I've had gay guys serious wish I was.

I get hit on or asked if Im gay somewhat often. I hang out at bars in an area of Denver that has a lot of gay men. I usually take it as a compliment that I look good. I dont have a problem with them at all and there are a few gay guys that I hang out with but nothing at all more than friendship

I was once asked in high school if I was bisexual. I think this might of been because of my step-brother who had a grudge towards me from middle school; he began to spread a rumor that I was. He may have decided to rumor that I was bisexual rather than gay because he was probably aware of the fact that most of everyone who knew me knew I was attracted to women (I'm straight). Being autistic, I was already shy and somewhat indifferent of women, but certainly sexually attracted towards them. The unfortunate events which coincided with this rumor being spread made for a cocktail of disaster.

At the time I was beginning to enter depression which was caused by what I and my doctor believed a severe trauma to one of my testicles during a basketball game. This diagnosis made sense because while recovering from this injury, I lost interest everything that once made me enjoy life, and I lost my ability to feel any sexual or intimate attraction towards women whatsoever. Also, I began to develop a severe case of acne (doctor prescribed Acutane).

At the same time this rumor that I was either gay or bi- was spreading. I began being asked whether I was gay or told that I was either directly or indirectly. Although, at the time I was hopelessly depressed I didn't realize what some people were indirectly suggesting that I was gay with such comments as: What are you? I would reply Spanish/Mexican, believing they were referring to my ethnicity, or family members would ask do you have a girlfriend? My reply: no. They then would ask: Do you like girls? Then their would be silence followed by their awkward laugh to ensure that I believed they were only joking, and the sad thing is at the time I believed they were. The list goes on.

All this harassment only prolonged and intensified my depression to the point of severe depression. This all transpired at a time in my life were I was barely beginning to consider seeking a relationship with a women, but that prospect was shot to hell. I eventually lost the few friends I did have, my grades began to fail, and I lost my passion for sports (the only outlet I had to engage in relatively normal social interaction). I eventually dropped out from high school my senior year, and became completely isolated outside of my job. Life since then has been a struggle to climb out of the s**t hole I fell in 6 years ago.

Anyways, Sorry for the dragged on story, but if you haven't read, this particular question triggers some unpleasant memories, and maybe I just wanted to get this off my chest. I believe, and I speak for myself, being an aspie, I may have been predisposed to not respond as well to such experiences in my life as others who may have experienced similar circumstances. Maybe if I had known I was an aspie at the time it would've had made things easier to deal with. Ok, now stop playing the violin.

Only ever once, but that was when I was 11.

I get asked plenty.

@Rodland:
If you ARE bisexual, then you seem (from this comment at least), to be very much more on the "gay end" of bisexual.
Ask yourself these questions:
1) Do you ever look for pr0n? If you do, does it ever have women as the main focus of interest?
2) If there were two attractive people on either side of you, one male the other female, would you look at either, both, or neither?
3) Would you ever try to flirt with a woman? Or a man? Or no-one at all?