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Hi

(sorry for my bad English)

WHERE I shoudl finding friends?

(Friends in real world, not on internet. I'm have much internet based friendships)

I'm 20 years old.

People(also on this forum) says "clubs, meeting-ups etc". But how finds this clubs?

In local press is not any information about clubs etc. Also on local webpages.

UPS: this subject is in wrong forum.

I'm not sure if there's something about your location or circumstances that's restricting your social opportunities - I'm surprised that you can't find information on local clubs or societies.

In any case I think you'll get better answers from someone near you in real life than on any online forum. You may just casually mention during a conversation, "Say, do you know a good way to meet new people around here?", or something similar. Real people are the best sources of information.

But They ALWAYS response: "I don't know".

What kinds of people are you asking?

Try asking people who know and meet lots of others as part of their job. Hairdressers, for example, are usually friendly and happy to chat while you're getting a haircut. And if you mention to a doctor during an appointment that you're feeling a bit lonely and are unsure how to meet people in your community, they will probably be able to help you out. They're helpful for much more than your physical health.

Also, don't be afraid to approach a clinical psychologist for help either. Here in Australia the government pays for sessions if you get a referral from your doctor. You could ask your doctor if there's something similar where you live.

My doctor know I have not friend. But he say "I cant help you". He says "You are not able to find friends because your are aspie. many peoples live without friend"



In Poland goverment pay for session with psychologist but you must waiting few months. And only 2-3 session in psychologist you can have in year.

Can you use google maps to search for something in your area?

Well, that's a pretty poor effort on the doctor's part. "You aren't able to make friends because you're an aspie". How ridiculous. If a doctor told me that, well...I wouldn't go back to see him again, that's for sure.

No friends is a tough gig, I know. But don't believe for one second that it's impossible to make them because of Aspergers.

I've met most of my friends in my classes at university, but it's also a good idea to try connecting with people through volunteer activities or work. Maybe try starting your own club. Find something you're interested in and put a flier around asking for expressions of interest.

I can't. I'm not google earth expert.

My Town is Gryfice

Maybe who know better Google Earth. And help me find.

I go to places where I feel more comfortable than I would otherwise. I love playing video games so I meet people at video game retail stores, I prefer more personal interactions so instead of going to a club I go to a lounge where things are more relaxed. Just makes it easier to meet people when you can meet them on your terms.

Gromelous: what was a good "subject" for club?

Im intersting in sinology and vexilology(studying of flags).

Google Earth isn't really needed, just Google Maps.

Go to http://maps.google.com and search for "clubs near Gryfice, Poland". When I search I get a few different results, though I cannot read Polish so I can't really give you information on them. That will at least give you a starting point.

Thx nekowater.

Only few clubs is clubs. Others is "sport clubs" and "night clubs".

I try it.

Well, it does give you a point at which to start. Try searching for other things that you're interested in. Google Maps can be very helpful with giving you the addresses for places to go.