Ladies - is not wanting a toned body on a partner abnormal?

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Because everyone seems to be under the assumption women ream their pants over guys with "hot" bodies, and its not true for me at all. I was wondering how normal this is.

When I was a teen I tried to like them because of society pressure, but decided as I aged screw society, I just don't get aroused by them.

Muscle tone on a guy to me is meh. Guys get weirded out when I say it doesn't turn me on!

To me, this is NOT a turn on:

I would much prefer a non toned guy with some flab like this - (note this man is sucking his stomach in - also larger than this guy is good too)


Just wondering how many other women (or gay/bi men) think similar.

Last edited by hale_bopp on 04 Oct 2010, 2:47 pm, edited 1 time in total.

The first picture is barftastic.

I too wonder if this is abnormal.

Nobody seriously likes a ripped guy. Besides a guy. That being said I'd give up my flab for being able to lift twice as much in a heartbeat.

Ihave some excess... skind but that all stretched skin and abdominal muscles because practically eerything I eat makes me bloat excessively to the point I look preggers. But of course Im 6'6" 205 lbs currently.

A lot of posts i've seen on here say otherwise heaps of women listed "toned" under their ideal man criteria. Also many women I know IRL.

The 2nd guy looks frikkin strong as a bull under that (small) amount of flab, while the 1st guy looks like a poser, hurts my eyes to look at that horrible tanned, knobbly vanity.

They are very few and far between. All the ones I've ever known think about ripped men like I think about anorexic women.

My mom complains about my weight and how much I eat and how my belly is pinchable, closest I've come to getting told I'm not ripped enough.

The top pic the guy has good abs. I like good abs on a guy. I think he is too scranwy though and has woman legs. I dont want a manorexic those guys just remind me of scarecrows. I am sure there is a mathematical formula for the perfect guy body it just doesnt make the press like the ideal woman body.

Now Matthew McConaughey (Sp) may be a bad actor but i will watch his movies anyway because he has a great body

So wait, now it is okay for a guy to have hair on his chest?

My physique is more like the second guy-a little thinner from running. The first guy is obviously a swimmer. Most guys are going to have a little belly fat if they like to eat or have a beer. The dudes that live in the gym and drink nothing but protein shakes that are outside their teens might get definition but who wants to live like that. I like enjoying some of the finer things and working my mind too.

I've never had any complaints

I've never liked ripped guys. I thought I was the only one.

I much prefer the guy with sunglasses. Guys who are ripped look like they obsess on themselves far too much. Who likes someone who's idol is their own body? But the second guy looks strong and healthy without being obsessed about it. I like that look on a man.

Not abnormal, not many women I know like muscle men, they do it to look attractive and it looks bleh just like how women starve themselves silly to look attractive but men turn out to prefer curvier women.
I prefer lanky guys myself, a bit of muscle looks good but I pefer them to be really slim.

True that. This guy isn't thinking about women.

Actually, I also like lanky... tall skinny guys with good smiles. My first husband (who I ended up divorcing) was the former, with very rugged features and astonishingly lovely eyes. My second husband, who died, was more like the guy in the second picture as far as his upper body was concerned. He was in a wheelchair, played wheelchair rugby and basket ball... If you've ever seen wheelchair rugby you can guess why it glories in the really cool name of "murder ball." My second husband was really sexy. Beautiful smile and gorgeous blue eyes, and wow... his hands... in every way you can imagine just wonderful. Men with beautiful eyes and smiles are irresistible, whether skinny or healthily muscled. I miss him like mad.