I feel like my boyfriend is going to propose to me.. help..

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I'm not opposed to the idea of getting married, but I don't want to yet.

This weekend a friend of ours proposed to his girlfriend and my boyfriend was like 'aw thats so nice, and romantic' etc.
So I said to the girl who got proposed to that i'm nowhere near ready to get married and she just kind of went 'oh..are you sure..?' and looked really worried...so now i'm worried he's going to propose.
Also, he jokingly called me Mrs [insert his last name] today and it freaked me out a little.

Am I being stupid in thinking he might propose? Please tell me that I am overthinking it. >.<

you should tell him you aren't ready for marriage before he goes off and buys a ring or something.

I agree with Alex.

Agreed, drop the hint - I wouldn't directly tell him about your intuition on this but let him know in some way that you love him but aren't ready just yet.

Yeah, you could talk about it in the context of your friend's engagement.

Discussing whether you both want to and/or are ready to get married is something that should happen before anyone proposes. It sounds unromantic but I think it would be risky for anyone to propose without knowing for sure that the other person would say yes. So now would probably be a good time to bring it up, since your friends have recently gotten enganged so it's easy to start talking about.

Whether or not he is actually thinking of proposing is irrelevant, the conversation still should happen (just maybe sooner that you would have liked due to the circumstances!!)

Good luck

Absolutely, have that conversation right away--your friend's engagement is the perfect opportunity to bring it up.

Obviously I can't know what your BF is planning, but keep in mind the things you've described don't automatically mean he's making plans. When friends of mine decided to get married, I thought it was already pretty obvious they belonged together and made plenty of approving sounds, and that had nothing to do with my own intentions. Your friend might well have taken your statement of not being ready as a reason for her to question whether SHE was ready. Or not. So you shouldn't be working off assumptions when you can have data.

And also, make it clear that "not ready now" doesn't mean "won't be ready later." Unless you're pretty darn sure of that second part, in which case you should be reconsidering the whole relationship.

Thank, guys.
I'm just afraid that he'll think it means I don't love him.