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19 Nov 2010, 9:25 pm

Hi everyone,
I know I recently posted about how I felt like I want to give up on finding a girlfriend not just because of my high functioning autism/aspergers syndrome but also because I have a lot of anxiety and insecurities when it comes to dating a young lady. I also have some issues with my self confidence and self esteem as well as I tend to worry about things more than I should when it comes to being a guy. I just feel like I can relate to women better, however, I have not found the right girl to talk to. Reply to this post or feel free to message me if you can help :)



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19 Nov 2010, 9:28 pm

michael23 wrote:
Hi everyone,
I know I recently posted about how I felt like I want to give up on finding a girlfriend not just because of my high functioning autism/aspergers syndrome but also because I have a lot of anxiety and insecurities when it comes to dating a young lady. I also have some issues with my self confidence and self esteem as well as I tend to worry about things more than I should when it comes to being a guy. I just feel like I can relate to women better, however, I have not found the right girl to talk to. Reply to this post or feel free to message me if you can help :)



If you want absolute brute honesty, it's not that the guys I know who easily get women don't have insecurities, but they are so fixated on the woman at the time that they don't think about their insecurities.



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19 Nov 2010, 9:30 pm

we have a sub thread for this, you will only get flammed



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19 Nov 2010, 9:40 pm

do you fallow me around or something?



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19 Nov 2010, 9:41 pm

Kilroy wrote:
we have a sub thread for this, you will only get flammed


He has not expressed any sentiments that warrant being "flamed", in fact, unlike some here, he has a rather healthy perspective in that he realized his relationship problems are due to his own social issues an insecurities, and doesn't blame others for it.

Since he does have the healthy perspective that he does, I don't think his problems are insurmountable.



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19 Nov 2010, 9:42 pm

I do not follow you around because I do not even know you. These are specific problems I am trying to deal and cope with since I have aspergers syndrome.



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19 Nov 2010, 9:47 pm

michael23 wrote:
I do not follow you around because I do not even know you. These are specific problems I am trying to deal and cope with since I have aspergers syndrome.


no no not you, craig whatever, posted in this thread and his message is deleted

i can see how this would look confusing



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19 Nov 2010, 9:47 pm

Oh ok. no problem. thanks for the feedback.