Ok, so I didnt break up with him.

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Instead, I explained to him what the problem was.. that he annoyed me kind of. He understood.
He told me I take things too seriously.. I told him that's just my personality.

We're still together. He's been acting differently.. but idk if that will last.. I don't expect him to change.. just to be more aware. He's known about my aspergers.

So.. Idk what to do. Should I stick it out?

I feel as if I'm tricking myself into happiness with him... which is TERRIBLE I know.. but I'm afraid this is just going to keep happening to me.. and he's really cute and treats me right.. the only thing he lacks is my humor.

Bleh. I feel like I need to give him more time to prove himself but I also feel like if it's not there it's not there..

When I first met him I got the "arrogant" vibe. Bad right? First impressions don't mean s**t though..

I'm soooo confused.

We've been dating for 30 days. Only have hung out I'd say 2/7 days a week on average.. so we really don't even know each other that well.

I need advice.

P.S.
Honestly he isn't as sexually equipped as I hoped he'd be.. he's 6' 4" though. I think he knows it bothers me.

Here's some advice. The more you complicate matters, the more complicated they become.

So how confused are you really? The only question I ever need to ask myself when I'm with someone is "Is this person comfortable with me being who I am?" If she needs me to change to suit her, then that's selfish, and she's got to go.

You're just stringing him along.
It's unfair.

He annoyed me because of the "poking fun" humor he has for me... I think of it as immature.. but he hasnt dated as much as me and I think that's just his way of flirting with me..

And I like who he is.. his personality itself does NOT bother me.. its just the dumb jokes he makes that are "sarcastic" and not "serious" that I don't understand. I'm not a sarcastic person...

sorry, can't focus on the rest of your post. i wonder... did you date him because he is tall and you assumed he would have big junk? because it's not like he would have instantly started being annoying AFTER you started dating, unless he is a completely different person all of sudden. did you happen to start to find him annoying after you saw him naked?

No I didn't date him for that.. I dated him because I genuinely have a pretty good time in his company. Assuming is so dangerous.. and I knew that so I tried not to have expectations. But I can tell he was insecure about it before we even started dating honestly.. I think it's hard for him to stay hard. So size is not a problem.. Size is not important I've heard.

After touching it.. I could tell it was sufficient.. but it wasn't hard all the way so I was like ehh I don't wanna touch it. He asked me what I thought and I honestly don't remember what I said. It was probably bad though. I didnt want to hurt his feelings it was just an initial reaction.. I know I didnt say anything crazy but I was honest enough that he could read me.. do you see what I mean?

Sooo his insecurity might be what's annoying me.. you see?

oh, okay, that makes sense. i know what you mean that insecurity can really be a turn-off. when i get to the stage you seem to be at, i find that the relationship is sorta irretrievable, and the guy trying harder to make it work comes across as even less appealing. but i am really on/off, yes/no, black/white.

See, the question isn't just "Am I OK with who he is?" The second question, which is just as important, is "Is he OK with who I am?" I was OK with who my ex was, and still is, but she isn't as OK with who I am. I accepted her for who she was, but she wanted me to be more like what she wanted, so it didn't work. So if he is OK with who you are, then it's all good. Of course, it sounds to me like you aren't OK with who he is, so it doesn't matter.

I am OK with who he is.. and I can tell he REALLY super duper likes me.. To the point it's too much to HANDLE now..

it's hard to do something I really don't want to do.. all my friends say "Sounds like it ain't workin'. Time to enddd ennd ennd it.." But you know.. I've been in his same position before.. and I know what it feels like.. and it's hard for me because I'm used to shallow guys.. he isnt shallow. He likes me for me.. and I wasn't prepared.

It's seriously my fault. Thats why I can't do it because it'll be an inevitable fate for me of failure relationships if I can't learn how to salvage one in the beginning stages... shouldn't this be easy?