thisischris wrote:
I've been told different things by different people about physical attraction. If it's important or not. Some say yes and some say no.
If you're with someone it's important to be attracted to them, or looks shouldn't matter, no matter what. I agree with both sides, but it's hard to reconcile the two.
It's important not to worry about it. It's more about focusing on who you would be happy with, and not letting society, your friends, or your family dictate what's important.
thisischris wrote:
I try very hard not to judge people based on looks, but I can't help it if I'm attracted to certain things and certain women. What I'm attracted to doesn't exactly fit what society and culture shows us, but some of it I like. I don't want to sound shallow, but should I just not think like this anymore?
You can tell a lot about a person by how they look, specifically, how much they care about how they look. The trick is to figure out why devote the effort (or lack of) to looking the way they do. Some people don't care that they look like transients, while others are obsessed with looking their best because they're unhappy with themselves.
What do you find attractive? Does it match with how you're presenting yourself?
thisischris wrote:
And with my bad luck with women, should I just take what I can get? My standards are pretty low and I'm open minded. Unless there is something about someone I just can't stand, I give people a chance. And I know I shouldn't settle, but do I have a right to choose? Like beggars can't be choosers you know?
How do you expect to be happy if you're not happy with who you're with?
thisischris wrote:
I'd rather be with someone who was considered average and have the greatest thing in the world. I just always have this nagging issue in the back of my mind.
That nagging is being afraid that your friends or family will judge you based upon who you're with. How's that for shallow? Will you be less of a person if you don't meet someone else's standards?