is this guy a pedophile/loser?

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28 Nov 2010, 11:14 am

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there is no sense in making inflammatory statements about women - that will not help you, nor will it help anyone else on this forum.

I wasn't talking about all women. But I have to go by what I have experienced over the too-numerous years, in the mindless, stultifying overgrown country town I failed to escape in the prime of life. And it should be no surprise that I am wary of most young females (NOT all), because of how ALL the ones I've have known have treated me. So it's natural to think Why would the next one be any different? Despite that, I went through a phase from 2002 to 2006, when I hoped that an attractive lady would be drawn to my not being like most guys, and that it would be an enjoyable experience that compensated adequately for the wasted years before then, but... it didn't work out that way. I didn't face up to the fact that I was still an uneducated loser who failed at high school, and was stuck in some dead-end job that doesn't pay a living wage. Didn't want to face up to the fact that males are not allowed to be different, but have to be "one of the boys" or else - unless possibly getting a free pass through having enough earning power to compensate for that. Dating is a market, like everything else, regardless of what idealistic horse-plop remained in my head.

i see what you are saying, but there are fixes to many of those isssues. i did not graduate from high school either, but i went to university as a non-matriculated student. i am going to be paying off student loans for the rest of my natural life, but i feel very proud of the accomplishment. i did it myself, and you can also make changes of many kinds should you desire it.

i started in one therapy group when i was 37 years old, and it helped me a great deal with my work-related issues and internal conflicts. these things helped me for ME, and since i have to live inside my own head for this lifetime it is well worth it.


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28 Nov 2010, 5:40 pm

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no, honestly... women and girls need to stay safe (and men and boys too, but it's less of a problem).

if someone gets a bad vibe from a guy, i'd say they should follow their instinct, even if they end up wrong. yes, it can be hard on the man who is excluded from a girl's social circle, but a girl should have the right and the wherewithal to act a certain way based on her bad vibes. the OP isn't talking about slandering some guy with her feelings, or hanging a sign around his neck - she is talking about keeping herself safe on Facebook.


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no, honestly... women and girls need to stay safe (and men and boys too, but it's less of a problem).

up to 1/3 of women are sexually abused or raped at some point in their lives, and i think part of the problem is that they are not conditioned to stay safe by following their feelings and instincts.


..........is not connected with this. Do not make excuses for the OP's unjustified prejudice against someone she hasn't even met.


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28 Nov 2010, 5:44 pm

Daemonic-Jackal wrote:
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no, honestly... women and girls need to stay safe (and men and boys too, but it's less of a problem).

if someone gets a bad vibe from a guy, i'd say they should follow their instinct, even if they end up wrong. yes, it can be hard on the man who is excluded from a girl's social circle, but a girl should have the right and the wherewithal to act a certain way based on her bad vibes. the OP isn't talking about slandering some guy with her feelings, or hanging a sign around his neck - she is talking about keeping herself safe on Facebook.


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no, honestly... women and girls need to stay safe (and men and boys too, but it's less of a problem).

up to 1/3 of women are sexually abused or raped at some point in their lives, and i think part of the problem is that they are not conditioned to stay safe by following their feelings and instincts.


..........is not connected with this. Do not make excuses for the OP's unjustified prejudice against someone she hasn't even met.

it isn't necessarily unjustified. those two items are exactly related, whether you would like to believe it or not. the risk is very real, and women need to keep themselves safe.

it is not an excuse. it is one woman encouraging another woman to act on her instincts, including avoiding some guy who gives her the creeps.

it's too bad if that upsets you, but women need to be more careful, not less careful, even if feelings get hurt in the process.


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28 Nov 2010, 8:38 pm

I'm not going to go true all the replies here but I'm a 28year-old guy who relates much better to teenage girls than to people my own age. I'm NOT sexually attracted to em(I'm a borderline asexual). I'm very immature in some ways; I think my AS/autism has a lot to do with it. Lots of people think I'm a pedophile thou. Perhaps it's something similar with that guy.



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29 Nov 2010, 4:12 am

hyperlexian wrote:
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hyperlexian wrote:
no, honestly... women and girls need to stay safe (and men and boys too, but it's less of a problem).

if someone gets a bad vibe from a guy, i'd say they should follow their instinct, even if they end up wrong. yes, it can be hard on the man who is excluded from a girl's social circle, but a girl should have the right and the wherewithal to act a certain way based on her bad vibes. the OP isn't talking about slandering some guy with her feelings, or hanging a sign around his neck - she is talking about keeping herself safe on Facebook.


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hyperlexian wrote:
no, honestly... women and girls need to stay safe (and men and boys too, but it's less of a problem).

up to 1/3 of women are sexually abused or raped at some point in their lives, and i think part of the problem is that they are not conditioned to stay safe by following their feelings and instincts.


..........is not connected with this. Do not make excuses for the OP's unjustified prejudice against someone she hasn't even met.

it isn't necessarily unjustified. those two items are exactly related, whether you would like to believe it or not. the risk is very real, and women need to keep themselves safe.

it is not an excuse. it is one woman encouraging another woman to act on her instincts, including avoiding some guy who gives her the creeps.

it's too bad if that upsets you, but women need to be more careful, not less careful, even if feelings get hurt in the process.


Unless it's now possible to pyhsically possible to sexually assault someone through the internet, then no it's not related at all. It only becomes related if she she has met the guy she is referring to in person which she hasn't, or if he has made any threats or inappropriate suggestions to her, which she hasn't mentioned either.

Maybe he gets on with females better then males. Maybe he's slightly immature so he can relate to people younger then him. Maybe he has a very 'feminine' personality. Did you stop and think about any of these before jumping on the bandwagon?

Nobody knows this person including the op herself, so who are we to make such a judgement on an individual we know nothing about?

Keep on making the same unfair assumptions if you want, but don't be a hypocrite and start complaining the next time someone makes an unfair and unjustified assumption about you.


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29 Nov 2010, 8:52 am

Daemonic-Jackal, i am going to assume you're joking or being intentionally disingenuous, because it is impossible for you to have never heard of an internet predator. one girl on WP shared her experiences with such a predator, and he managed to do a great deal of damage without ever meeting her in person. it all started with a friend request, as well.

EDIT: i removed this middle part as i don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. i have no idea if people on here seem creepy in real life.

if you (or anyone) wants assistance with not seeming creepy, then please ask and people will help you as much as they can. but getting angry at women (who have every right or reason to avoid men who give them a bad feeling) will not change anything. the world and the internet are dangerous places for women, so they should always follow their instincts above all.


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01 Dec 2010, 2:54 am

Thought i should add my wee bit.
I'm 23 and my Fiancee is 17 its only 6 an a half years Gap.

I think Age is just a number, if you really love someone WHY should there age matter !?? . if she was younger or i was older, I Love her and would still be with her , no-matter what this messed up socity Thinks.



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01 Dec 2010, 2:59 am

Well its actually a lot more than just a number but everyone shalt do what they will.

This whole concept reminds me of something here where a teacher hooked up with a 12 year old boy. She went to prison and rightfully, and was regarded a criminal. This was a long time ago. Now the boy is in his 20s and he is married to her with kids and it's all over the magazines about a "happy love story". :roll:



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01 Dec 2010, 4:18 am

I just think it's funny how some NT women are quick to brand guys creeps based on a gut feeling or awkward social skills on his part...but then they date guys 10 times bigger than them who actually could do physical harm on them and often times do.



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01 Dec 2010, 11:01 am

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I just think it's funny how some NT women are quick to brand guys creeps based on a gut feeling or awkward social skills on his part...but then they date guys 10 times bigger than them who actually could do physical harm on them and often times do.

Exactly. And in that case, they get what they deserve.



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01 Dec 2010, 12:12 pm

BPalmer wrote:
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I just think it's funny how some NT women are quick to brand guys creeps based on a gut feeling or awkward social skills on his part...but then they date guys 10 times bigger than them who actually could do physical harm on them and often times do.

Exactly. And in that case, they get what they deserve.


Are you suggesting that women who date large men deserve to be beaten up? :?


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01 Dec 2010, 12:14 pm

BPalmer wrote:
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I just think it's funny how some NT women are quick to brand guys creeps based on a gut feeling or awkward social skills on his part...but then they date guys 10 times bigger than them who actually could do physical harm on them and often times do.

Exactly. And in that case, they get what they deserve.


Wow. You're generalising guys who are '10 times bigger' as people who would abuse women.



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01 Dec 2010, 9:25 pm

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Wow. You're generalising guys who are '10 times bigger' as people who would abuse women.

No. I meant that theoretically they'd be more able to to physical harm, so females have just as much reason to fear them as they do the so-called "creepy guys."



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01 Dec 2010, 11:29 pm

How is that getting what they deserve?



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01 Dec 2010, 11:31 pm

TallyMan wrote:
BPalmer wrote:
nilescrane wrote:
I just think it's funny how some NT women are quick to brand guys creeps based on a gut feeling or awkward social skills on his part...but then they date guys 10 times bigger than them who actually could do physical harm on them and often times do.

Exactly. And in that case, they get what they deserve.


Are you suggesting that women who date large men deserve to be beaten up? :?


it would seem so...and why I made my thread
people like that



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02 Dec 2010, 2:26 am

emlion wrote:
BPalmer wrote:
nilescrane wrote:
I just think it's funny how some NT women are quick to brand guys creeps based on a gut feeling or awkward social skills on his part...but then they date guys 10 times bigger than them who actually could do physical harm on them and often times do.

Exactly. And in that case, they get what they deserve.


Wow. You're generalising guys who are '10 times bigger' as people who would abuse women.


I am 6' 2" tall and around 290lbs for weight. I have never hit a woman my entire life and I never saw my dad hit my mother so odds are I will never hit a woman. Its all in the up bringing I guess. "The only way I would hit a woman is if she was going to kill me or a family member. I had a co-worker in a resteraunt tell me "if my wife did not make my sandwich right then I'll choke a b***h." He was a little latin guy who 5' 6" tall and around 120 lbs. He and his wife who was a hostess that worked with us constantly beat each other up.


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