Guys -- who would you choose? (Alternate scenario)

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Girl 1

Girl 1 is 5'11'' and overweight, and sports a short bob hairstyle similar to Victoria Beckham. Girl one has a very feminine personality and never leaves the house without makeup and eyeliner. She spends her free time shopping and looking after her pet Terrier, named Situation. Her favorite artist is Taylor Swift, and she DVR's The Hills and loves to talk about Jersey Shore.

Girl 1 is a devout Christian but doesn't actively convert or judge others. She appears to have a caring personality, but she can be harsh during conversations. Girl 1 is a licensed makeup artist. She enjoys her job and hopes to start her own business. She is an avid cook, keeps things orderly but isn't a neat freak. Girl 1 wants a strictly monogamous relationship and has a circle of a few, close friends.


Girl 2

Girl 2 is 5'9'', has an incredibly attractive figure and long hair similar to Anna Kournikova. She wears mostly jeans and t-shirts, and only rarely dons makeup. Girl 2 is athletic and enjoys the outdoors. For recreation, she goes mudding, boulders, plays video games and beach volleyball. She is a recreational drinker and smokes pot socially.

Girl 2 has a lot of friends, but most of them haven't known her very long. Girl 2 is easy to talk too but a bit judgmental. She is working towards a two-year degree at a community college where she has a 2.6 GPA. She can't cook and dislikes cleaning. A majority of her friends are guys. Her friends who are girls think Girl 2 is promiscuous. Girl 2 prefers open relationships, but she is willing to go steady with the right guy.

Feel free to ask questions about Girl 1 and Girl 2 and I will answer them.

Girl number 2 needs better girl-friends who doesn't judge her.
Girl number 1 sounds boring.
Though I am not a guy I'd hang with girl number 2 over girl nr 1. Though the pot is a dealbreaker for me.

they are better choices than all the ones in the other threads put together.

Same here.

And her friends are a deal breaker too.

But gr 1, I think I die with a girl who needed that much validation

Just wondering why you're asking... seems like an easy choice. Girl 2 sounds basically perfect.

How old are they? What are their sex drives like? What books/movies/TV shows do they like? Are they gonna comfort me and listen to me when I'm down?

Remove the Jersey Shore from girl #1 and i'm sold... (also it would be nice if makeup wasn't so important to her, but i can manage...)

Definitely Girl number 2. Girl number 1 reeks of insecurity, if her excessive taste in Jersey Shore and need for makeup and devotion to Christianity is any indication. I have a hard time hanging around somebody that is that insecure, especially girls, and ESPECIALLY girls that are fat, because then they accuse me of "abandoning them" because they are fat, when the real reason is that I'm annoyed by her constant whining and complaining about how things aren't going her way. Maybe I'm a cynic, but that has happened to me enough times that I am cynical of insecure fat girls, interpreting my interest in them as boyfriend-esque. Just because I talk to a girl doesn't mean I want to date her! Apparently because she is fat, any guy that shows interest in her MUST be true love, because who is going to be superficial with a fat girl? Or at least that's the impression that I get from people like that. I don't like what I'm saying, but it's just a personal observation of what I've experienced. Being friends with a girl is hard enough as it is. "How dare you not call me for a month!" Aren't we "just friends" though?

Girl 2 seems pretty cool. She is very attractive, yet she prefers to wear jeans and a T-Shirt instead of the more traditional makeup and high heels. Girl 2 is athletic, enjoys the outdoors, drinks alcohol and smokes weed occasionally. This tells me that she isn't as sensitive as Girl 1, because sensitive people are offended by smoking and drinking. Most of her friends are guys, which doesn't surprise me, since she seems like a tomboy. Other girls think she is promiscuous (read: they are jealous of her) but at least she recognizes on some level or another that humans are not monogamous creatures.

So if it was up to me, I would choose Girl number 2. Of course, this is just a text-based personality I'm judging on, but even so, I've met Girl number 2's archetype before, and two of my best girl friends have been this type. I dated one, and I'm best friends with the other. Now, neither of them smoke weed, but other than that, the two of them together represent everything listed for Girl 2. Girl number 2 is busy and full of energy, and Girl number 1 is more of a housewife that likes to pamper and be pampered. Girl number 1's archetype has once accused me of being "weightist" (is that a new word?) and I told her the only thing big about her was her mouth. She told me I was a dick. I told her that my dick is bigger than her mouth. She told me she would NEVER suck my dick. I told her that it's a low calorie meal. She got mad and stormed off. (Hey, she brought up the weight, not me) Epic fat girl rage! It always annoys the hell out of me.

girl 2 - I prefer natural beauty, and I'm a little athletic and I get more pleasure being active and outside than in front of the boob tube. Recreational drinking and weed is OK - as long as it's not over done. I can certainly cross over gender roles and show her who to cook and dress, and she is likely to reciprocate over to me as well. And she's going to school as well.

girl 1 is a little bit of a deal breaker - with the DVR and such. She seems like a better match relationship wise, but she irks me in a few ways - the devout Christianity being one of them. All the devout Christians I've met were born-again Baptists or Mormons who care more about Lexus, Mercedes, Rush Limbaugh, Glenn Beck, Amway, and being a stereotypical Republican than using God for good.

Last edited by nthach on 13 Dec 2010, 10:04 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Based on what the OP said about both choices if it was between the two of them it would be girl 1 for me.

I don't date or want anything to do with pot/ drug users. I have enough people in my life with substance abuse issues, don't need to deal with that.

How old are they?
Girl 1 is 19.
Girl 2 is 21.

What are their sex drives like?
Girl 1 sees sexual intercourse as expression of love instead of a recreational activity. In a typical relationship, Girl 1 would engage in intercourse only after she has known the guy for a period of 6 months or longer. In a typical relationship, Girl 1 will engage in intercourse monthly.

Girl 2 enjoys regular intercourse as a recreational activity, especially at the end of a long day. In a typical relationship, she will engage in intercourse weekly, and usually she will engage in intercourse during the first month of the relationship.

What books/movies/TV shows do they like?

Girl 1 likes True Blood, Jersey Shore, American Idol, and The Hills. Her favorite movie is the Notebook. She reads Harry Potter, Agatha Christie, Twilight and Nancy Drew.

Girl 2 watches Ninja Warrior, Survivorman, American Gangster and Warren The Ape. Her favorite movie is The Big Lebowski. Her favorite books are The Zen Motorcycle Diaries, Thus Sprach Zarathusta (Nietzsche), and Living Wicca.

Are they gonna comfort me and listen to me when I'm down?
Girl 1 would definitely comfort you. She enjoys listening, responding helpfully, and knows how not to step on your toes. Girl 1 is likely to respond to this situation with a hug or snuggling. Girl 1 sees these situations as a way of strengthening the relationship.

Girl 2 will usually comfort you, but it will depend on what mood she is in. If she's had a rough day, she may respond sarcastically or ignore you. She is willing to listen, but only to a degree. Girl 2 is a bit unsympathetic in these sorts of situations. Girl 2 sees these situations as sort of a hassle, but understands that they occur in most relationships.

God why do you make Girl 2 so likable and unlikable at the same time. I hate to like her.

Because people are more complex than they appear.

That's easy, girl 2.

Girl 1, we'd have no interest. I'd fail at having any interaction with her. But the couple support is what I would need, that only Girl 1 could give me.

I want to smash them together. Because I hate both and like both.

Just a question -- why the assumption that Girl 1 needs validation? Is it because of her feminine qualities?