That's strange . . . I wonder if you're inadvertently coming off as a creeper in some way. Could it be that something is making them uneasy? Like a mannerism or expression that you're not aware of having, but that means something negative to people when they see it. . . I'm not sure how you'd find out if that's the case, though. Or how to change it if you did . . . or to account for it, which is at least possible/ realistic. Well, anything is, I suppose. I feel there are always surprises in store for us.
Do you ever get any awareness of a moment that someone decides she doesn't want to be with you (sorry, I don't really know what's going on currently, but I think I remember seeing you write a similar post some time back) ~ if that's what's happening?
Do they seem to not like you as soon as you meet in person (if it's a blind date), or would it be after a certain activity or topic of conversation?
Haha, as if you could analyze it, right? (When I say "you" ~ I mean "me") and I'm finally sort of learning ~ if logic and analysis were at all useful when it comes to navigating this whole relationship business ~ then I would be doing a lot better at it than I have been doing [duh!]. Yet for some reason I always want it to make sense . . . and it sort of does, but I think it's almost chemical (?) . .. that it's not under the person's control so much, whether or not they are attracted to somebody.
How about looking back at women in your life that have understood your charm, (forgive me if I'm mistaken that this has happened, I think you have been with someone(s) though... ) Do they have anything in common that you can see? Also is there anything else to be learned from looking back on the ruins of those relationships . . . ? As it will be through a different lens, at least somewhat . . . Finally I have figured out, or think I comprehend something about "what I did wrong" for lack of a better way of saying it, in former relationships. No exaggeration to say that in some cases, it has taken decades for me to see what really went down in certain interactions.
IMO there's not a cookie cutter approach to attracting women/ men that can be learned, at least to me [but then, I'm not typical . . . I have a zillion diagnoses, none of which include AS, but reading this forum I have realized AS is the diagnosis would stitch all the puzzle pieces together]. It seems to me that everyone would feel this way even if they are more "typical" though, so I'll just suggest it ~~ the guys I ended up getting together with are the ones who somehow got me to believe they were actually seeing the real me [whatever that might be], and were attracted to me because they understood who I really am, and I'm not saying these guys actually had any insight or did know me better than someone else. . . just that I believed they did. (Or, maybe it's that I was able to suspend my disbelief? Idk...)
Well, I guess I'm not someone to be giving advice on the Love & Dating board. Healthy relationships aren't exactly my specialty. The guys I spent the most time with were just generally successful with women, before and after being with me, not to mention they would have to be good at it if they were with me, because (and a lot of this is in retrospect) I was often completely clueless when it came to subtleties, feeling the waters, and so on ~ they would have to have been fairly adept, if their advances were noticeable by me haha Actually, I'm not sure if that's why the other women liked them. Oh wait, OK actually, one of my ex-boyfriends' other exes once said (wow lots of initial "o's" in that sentence so far, o's all around!) ummm oh yeah, that he (our mutual ex) was with a lot of different women (one at a time, over the years) but he always made whoever he was with feel like she was the most special one of them all. And I think he had a pretty basic approach that worked for him all the time. For what it's worth.....
He's just a really nice guy, he's of the "yes dear" variety for the most part. Does not get into battles, whether he's right or not. You know? I think it's a good strategy and I try to use it, especially with my toxic exes (the ones that are really bad for my health, but I have to deal with anyway).
So, I trust that answers your question, of whether or not it's possible to rent a girlfriend.