I need some advice, Quick question

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I've been into this girl for a couple days now and i have a feeling shes into me aswell.
Recently she wrote on my formspring with the question "Describe the perfect girl" notice she didn't make it an anonymous question so she is being straight up with her question.

The problem is I don't want to make this list and have her feel uncomfortable with it and run off. How can i answer this without making her feel bad for not fitting in and still being nice?

Thank you for responding.

Are you worried about scaring her off with your answers?
And really, the question is not real, and maybe nothing ever, as a aspie is well.... Perfect
The perfect person (if that exists) is going to be patient in who you are
Will attempt not to judge you on the moment
And be willing to grow and love who and what you are, without causing more problems
And love the fact that you are different then the rest of the guys, in better ways

Maybe this will help and is useful to you
And something I hope we all may find, some peace
Sean

I did not understand what you said.. my apologies.

I would say either that there's no such thing as the perfect girl, or that perfection is subjective or boring, or that the perfect girl for each person would be different, but that you haven't lived long enough/experienced enough to be able to know or describe your perfect girl, or that you simply don't have a concept in your head of a perfect girl. Answer with a non-answer.

Alternatively, you could ask her to clarify her meaning. Is she asking you to objectively describe a perfect person, or to describe the qualities/characteristics/traits you look for in a girl.

There are many ways to answer and no right or wrong answer. It's highly likely that she is just trying to figure out if she meets your criteria - if you don't want her to know your criteria or if you are worried about scaring her off then I would go with a non-answer. If you feel your criteria isn't too strict or obscure, a.k.a. most decent girls would fit the bill, then sharing probably wouldn't hurt.

Thank you, This helped me think of some that i agree with.