I'm seeing someone..

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I met this girl at my college and she came over yesterday. We got along pretty well and she is coming over again tomorrow. My question is how do you if you're going from just seeing each other to being in a relationship?

Somebody updates their facebook status.

I think you just know. I've typically been in relationships without dating, so I'm dealing with the same thing right now. I don't "feel" I'm in a relationship, but I think I might be.

After sex, I think you are in a relationship.

If you have an unspoken agreement to do things with the other person, that's also a relationship.

If you have a prerogative for open contact at all times, that also seems like a relationship.

You'll know if you're in a relationship. You just can't know if you're going to be in one. If you want to move it in that direction, there are activities that are less ambiguous in terms of the relationship they imply. Going to see a movie together would be a step in that direction.

Sympathy, though. I took my (later to be) wife to dinner and then a movie. I spent the whole time wondering whether we were in a relationship and whether it was a date. I certainly intended it to be. I think it only became clear when I held her hand in the movie. Ironically, she tells me she was thinking much the same: that she hoped taking her to dinner and a movie meant I was interested in her.