If I've had no luck with NT girls should I try AS girls or .

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One thought is to not try to impress anybody or try to find a girl or anything like that. Don't look for friends or the like. Just try to relax and let things happen to you for a while. Girls tend to be impressed by those that are not trying to pick them up. Most relationships seem to happen from aquaintenances that turn to small meetings that turn to dinner and a movie that turn to short term relationships that may turn to long term relationships that may turn to marraige that may turn to divorce-then the process starts over...or not.

The key here is to enjoy the adventure, and not worry about getting to the destination. Actually, this is one of the few metaphores I can understand.

Take care

Witch is right on target. I've always met boyfriends when I wasn't "looking" for someone. My humble advice: learn to be happy with yourself and have plenty of interests to keep yourself busy and NOT focused on getting a girlfriend.

One other TRUE story/tidbit: If you're a Seinfeld fan, and happen to remember the episode where George Costanza did the opposite of everything he'd been doing and then suddenly it worked, that might be the trick. Don't laugh-- I actually gave that advice to one of my best friends who did the opposite of what she'd been doing. Now she's happily married.

Hope this helps

Yes.
or No.

... guys?

I think step 1 is to figure out where you are going wrong. ToS is right in that you are the weak link, the common factor in the failed dating attempts. Step 2, once you've figured out what you're doing wrong, is to figure out how to correct yourself. I follow these steps religiously myself in my daily life, and it's always worked out well for me.

I think for a lot of people with AS, step 1 is what they can't get past because of their inability to read social cues. I've found that I am able to surpass step 1 by using logical deduction instead. I look for patterns in my behaviour and people's response to it. I try to pinpoint moments of change from when people go from acting positively towards me to acting negatively towards me and try to remember what I was saying/doing at the time of change. I look for the common denominators in the situation.

this is great http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKUvKE3bQlY

There's one problem with that costanza clip that wouldn't happen in real life. If the first thing you say after introducing yourself is "I'm unemployed and live with my parents", I don't think any woman would take you at that point, no matter what "confidence" you have...

Done!

I think you underestimate women.

Caps and shouting are the same thing here.


To get directly there next time, try adding the *asterisk* or use bold to draw attention without shouting.

Really then... can you even show me one woman in real life that would be attracted to that? Because that would be the kind of person i'd like to meet...

I don't do that as the first, second, or third thing I do, or a whole bunch of things after that. Hypothetically, I think there may be women out there for whom it isn't an instant killswitch, but I've yet to meet them.

Me? I used to date a guy, who never worked a day in his life and lived with his controlling mother and father. I dated him for 5 months.
Then he dumped me for some pretty girl.

granted he was a typical 'bad boy' but those things didn't put me off.
wish they had put me off, because he was a total scumbag.

Are you implying that i am also a scumbag?

Theoretically the AS girl may have a better chance of understanding you.