What is it you want?

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I have this not too realistic image that I want to be get married when I am 25, have two children, a boy and a girl when I am 30.

Do you have everything planned out like me? My dream is impossible...

are you a guy or a girl? If you are a guy then yes your dream is impossible. If you are a girl then no, some guy will find a way to impregnate you.

Im just kidding........

What I want to feel comfortable in my skin...to feel confident and to feel like I am living life. The last thing i want would be kids. Im pretty sure I never want kids. I dont want somone to struggle the way I have struggled to feel what I have felt......even if is just 1/2 as bad as what I went through/

It's not impossible, unless you're going to turn 25 tomorrow! (I'm assuming from your post that you are not married and not 25 yet).

I used to have these 'dream plans', but life just doesn't happen that way; if it did EVERYONE would have what they want when they want it without needing to really work for it. Kinda makes life dull without new obstacles that get in the way of what you want; (although it doesn't seem like it at the time and can be quite stressful!), the 'obstacles' can also lead to things you never imagined yourself doing or taking part in.

I think it's great to have goals, but to limit them to needing to achieve them before a certain age is futile. Plus, if you rush into something just to be able to say you achieved your goal in the set time you imagined it, you might make a VERY big mistake and regret it.

Some things happen from nothing, (others from hard work, commitment and the drive to achieve), but sometimes it's best just to let certain things go without worrying whether it's going to happen or not; not 'search' for them but let it happen on it's own accord......

But that's not to say your dream won't happen; you never know

I'd be surprised if I was in a relationship again. Quadruply surprised if kids were on the cards.

What do I want? Not sure if I really want either that badly.

That's the hard part right there. Genetic lottery.

I'm a man. The problem I think is that my plans for the future are not very realistic. I have very precise criterion for my wife and I know it's wrong but I feel that if I settled for anything less she could be a flick of the moment but not my wife.

I find something sad about aspiring to marry and have kids. Is that it? Really? Surely there must be something more you want to do in life than simply repeating old social institutions and serving as a breeder for the human race?

And after you've achieved these things what is there left then? Forty years of monotony followed by twenty more of slow, painful decline?

I aspire to work, to create things of beauty and achievement in my profession (filmmaker), to experience incredible things in the undertaking, and forge new interpersonal connections. If one happens to yield a marriage, so be it. Marriage is, for me, a natural progression which, if it happens, it happens. It is not the goal, because then you'll just get more and more desperate, and probably just wind up with someone as equally desperate, and then you two get the share in a lifetime of misery, mediocrity and second guessing.

Yes, I want to colonise space, win the third world war and live for ever. But we both know it is probably not going to happen...

All I want is to move back to the area I grew up, to the few friends I have and hopefully feel settled cos I certainly don't here

Oh, sorry, what i mean was, what do you want from your partner?

Acceptance and security.

Bacon butties on a Saturday morning.

I want to finish my masters degree. I'll take whatever happens during or after that as it comes.

I've planned a million things and life has changed on me a million times. Now I don't tempt fate. I don't even declare when I'm going to mail a box to a friend. I just do it, then say afterward. If I say mention it, something will happen to make it impossible for me to mail the box. This is the story of my life. So I don't plan things. I just do things.

I wish to stay a single, immature rambunctious Mod of the 60s type. I don't want to be tied down by a horny man.

@ Cockney Rebel

That's what I'm talking about!