Do you think it will be hard?

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I had a very short relationship with a girl for only 2 weeks this year. she broke up with me and said to me in person "I only really dated you just for practice" I was devestated by what she said.

in general socially i am very awkward when speaking and to be honest with you socalising and conversations do not come natuarlly to me. according to my brother as well i can't really talk well to anybody

Is this going to make it near impossible for me to get any dates in the future because of my poor social skills? I am 21 by the way

If all chicks where like me it would not be hard, and no one would be dated for 'practice'.

That's pretty unkind of her to say. A lot of people think like that but it's really rude to actually say it.

I know that but more to the point how much will the 'awkwardness' and lack of 'communication skills' aspect of my personality put me at a disadvantage in the dating world? Will it make it near impossible to hook up with a girl? Well at least a girl who is not deranged

It's not just rude, it's actually bullying., YOU decide what practice is and YOU decide when and how it is done. If she called the shots on how long it lasted and then did not tell you of her intentions until she ended it, then she's a bully.

I know is rough on you, but try to forget about her. Bullies are low-life garbage and you need to save yourself for a good girl who actually values herself.

Well to be realalistic it probably would cause significant difficulty......I have had some relationships in the past, but even if I am in a relationship things like sex and physical contact type things are very akward for me so sometimes I am afraid to even try because I don't want to be hurt in the end. I mean I would like to say you will find someone.......but I don't even know if I believe that for myself.

Really Sweetleaf so i will never have a proper girlfriend?

In what areas might it cause signifigant difficulty? And how can i overcome some of the awkwardness isuess etc????

That was not what I was getting at......Its very possible you could, you just have to find someone you really have a connection with. Which can be difficult in general, having social difficulties can make it more difficult but certainly not impossible.

As Sweetleaf said, it likely will make it more difficult, but not impossible. With effort as well as with an understanding and like-minded partner, dating can work out well for you, like with many things in life

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As for how it causes difficulty......I am not sure exactly how it effects you but I cannot talk to people I don't know unless they say something to me first so that makes meeting people difficult. Also, I hate to say it but a lot of females judge negatively if you come off as unusual.......or in my case guys do that to. I think its a matter of finding people your comfortable around and such.

YEAH that is exactley the point i am getting at about coming of unsually.

Do you think maybe i might have to have congitive behaviour therapy to tackle that issue because at this point in time i have forgotten how to be totally normal

That might help....but I would not worry about being 'totally normal' but you could possibly get help with how to interact socially a little better.

Sorry about that girl no one should date someone for "practice" and let the other person think otherwise.

i'm sorry that had happened to you.. i wish the girl would trip and fall on her nose and practice dating now she has a crooked nose.. hehe.. just kidding.. i'm sure you'll find ways to turn things around and that life and this universe will find a way to make it better.. don't let one person's unkind deed determine the entirety of your life experience..

I could use some practice. Feel free to use me for practice, ladies.

What timing. I could use your help. Now Mr. Moog, if you would kindly stand in front of this tree, put this apple on your head and hold still, that would greatly improve my aim.