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ToadOfSteel
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22 Feb 2011, 1:38 pm

emlion wrote:
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You meet someone, have a good time, fall in love, live happily ever after.


Only if you're in a Disney movie.


I wish. :3
I'll love to be Belle.


Yeah, because chicks totally dig an ugly antisocial jerk that everyone else wants to be rid of...



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22 Feb 2011, 2:08 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
emlion wrote:
Asp-Z wrote:
emlion wrote:
You meet someone, have a good time, fall in love, live happily ever after.


Only if you're in a Disney movie.


I wish. :3
I'll love to be Belle.


Yeah, because chicks totally dig an ugly antisocial jerk that everyone else wants to be rid of...


I don't think you can generalize all 'chicks'



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22 Feb 2011, 6:51 pm

Gremmie wrote:
Ok. I think you might be overthinking this a bit. :P

DCxMagus wrote:
NO don't really it sounds like you two are off to a fine start, my little rant was just that a rant =P


Whew, that's a relief! Glad to know that we aren't screwing up like I originally thought we might be!

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A spark is required.


Uhh, we might of gave eachother static shock at some point or another by accident. Is that what you're talking about?

emlion wrote:
You meet someone, have a good time, fall in love, live happily ever after.


I-is that a command or a statement? Because we've completed at least two of those steps, but definitely not the last one. Is it even possible to live happily ever after without everyone I love (including me) dying simultaneously in our sleep, with the whole death and grieving thing and all? D:

Jamie8675309 wrote:
Yea, the "sh** test" idea seems quite true for realtionships.


"s**t test"? I've never heard of it. Do I/we need to take it?

ToadOfSteel wrote:
Yeah, because chicks totally dig an ugly antisocial jerk that everyone else wants to be rid of...

emlion wrote:
I don't think you can generalize all 'chicks'


. . . Oh dear. Did I spark a flame war? Oh god I'm sorry



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23 Feb 2011, 6:25 am

There's no flame war here! :D



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23 Feb 2011, 6:48 am

emlion wrote:
You meet someone, have a good time, fall in love, live happily ever after.


I really wish it were this simple.

But sadly, the world does not seem to work this way.



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23 Feb 2011, 6:50 am

Yeah, I know - I was being flippant.
It'd be nice if it was that easy though.

That's my plan though & it's working thus far.
about time!



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23 Feb 2011, 7:38 am

I find that people tend to kill relationships because they're working on them too hard. They don't allow the relationship to become what it can be with the two individuals involved, but instead attempt to beat it into submission to meet their specific definition of what a relationship should be. This is a stressful way to conduct a relationship and it will fail if both people are beating and do not have identical definitions.



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23 Feb 2011, 8:54 am

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I find that people tend to kill relationships because they're working on them too hard. They don't allow the relationship to become what it can be with the two individuals involved, but instead attempt to beat it into submission to meet their specific definition of what a relationship should be. This is a stressful way to conduct a relationship and it will fail if both people are beating and do not have identical definitions.



I know this killed my last one, she didn't like the speed and direction it was going(it was very casual and she wanted deeply committed and monogamous). She kept trying to redefine it as such every time we would have any type of communication past small talk, I lost interest exceedingly quickly and ended it.

SO yes for the love of god let the relationship flourish on it's own accord don't try and pigeon hole it into something or it will die very quickly



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28 Feb 2011, 3:33 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
emlion wrote:
Asp-Z wrote:
emlion wrote:
You meet someone, have a good time, fall in love, live happily ever after.


Only if you're in a Disney movie.


I wish. :3
I'll love to be Belle.


Yeah, because chicks totally dig an ugly antisocial jerk that everyone else wants to be rid of...


There's the real Toad coming out to play..



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28 Feb 2011, 11:04 pm

Tough question, dude :/ sorry that I haven't got any advice for you. That kinda thing goes away over my head....


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28 Feb 2011, 11:08 pm

Tough question, dude :/ sorry that I haven't got any advice for you. That kinda thing goes away over my head....


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01 Mar 2011, 3:52 pm

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Yeah, how the f**k do relationships work?

I've look all over the net, and all I can find are instructions on how to do advanced and over-the-top stunts like hugging, cuddling, kissing, sex, and utilizing psychic abilities! This is all way over my head, and I'm having trouble finding any good guides or walkthoughs that teach me the basics. I recently found out that me and my best friend are mutually interested in each other, and neither of us have any clue on what to do other than have long awkward silences and hold hands. So it's imperative that I get some information before we do anything stupid and ruin our friendship/romance!

Thanks in advance!


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01 Mar 2011, 4:01 pm

Leporidae wrote:
Yeah, how the f**k do relationships work?


Maybe reverse engineer one?


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01 Mar 2011, 4:08 pm

wefunction wrote:
I find that people tend to kill relationships because they're working on them too hard. They don't allow the relationship to become what it can be with the two individuals involved, but instead attempt to beat it into submission to meet their specific definition of what a relationship should be. This is a stressful way to conduct a relationship and it will fail if both people are beating and do not have identical definitions.


I think you have a point there.

It probably does not help that the culture and society in which you live in projects a value and an image of what a relationship should involve whereas the actual reality of how human beings find mutual companionship is actually far more complex and not nearly as one dimensional or black and white in its expression.


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01 Mar 2011, 10:16 pm

Leporidae wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
Yeah, because chicks totally dig an ugly antisocial jerk that everyone else wants to be rid of...

emlion wrote:
I don't think you can generalize all 'chicks'


. . . Oh dear. Did I spark a flame war? Oh god I'm sorry


No it's not a flame war. I just make comments like that to people that say such disney-esque things. If life were a disney movie, then I wouldn't have much of a problem. That's the main issue I have; when someone says they'd want to be like a character in a disney movie, it ticks me off because I know that's not how the real world operates. I feel that if someone such as emlion was actually given the chance to be Belle, as it were, she would not be attracted to a Beast type character.

tl;dr: i'm not trying to incite a flamewar, I'm basically just calling BS.



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02 Mar 2011, 8:08 am

you're right. if i was in disney i'd pick an Aladdin. :chin:
but i'd still want to be Belle, i don't want to be a princess like Jasmin.
obviously life isn't really disney - i was being flippant.