emlion wrote:
i think they're talking about a date/sex/relationship whichever, anything.
i still think Boo hit the nail on the head.
That's what the OP is talking about.
But bare in mind , that the feeling of "I can't find the right one" is harder and more esteem-destructive than "no one likes me" feeling.
The first feeling appears after someone got through a lot of dates/partners/ failed relationships and can't settle for a one partner for some reason (maybe just bad luck , maybe the person is too picky...). --> That's the typical female AS situation , what they usually do is fasting of seeing men for x months in order to get rid a bit of this feeling and then start the quest again.
The second feeling happens when the person gets to a certain age and feels that he/she still never experienced adult experiences , he/she starts feels way behind his peers in life experience and feel socially inadequate , even his/her peers would notice that there's something wrong with him/her and start asking him/her questions such as "why you don't have a partner?" and such , he/she would be even alienated in many social events because he/she would be the only one with no partner there.
The second feeling would not stop unless if a sudden success happens or total giving up.