How do you know if someone likes you?

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Euuuwwww!! !! !

Please, when will this nightmare end?

I cannot tell whether a girl is being nice or whether she fancies me. It really pisses me off. I am so lonely.

I like my pattented "Blaze O' Glory" techinque and it goes like this:

First you should decide on a desired outcome (yes or no)

Yes---Prepare some sort of origanal parlor trick or make some origami cranes with a poem in it or something. Present said display of affection and come strait out and ask. It's brash and irrational but so is human emotion so deal with it. Worse case scinario you can get shot down by someone entirely different next week.

No---Don't do anything and let it blow over because if your like me you have caused enough pain to yourself and others as it is.

You get better at it as you practice. Getting regected constantly makes each time after less and less tramatic and eventually they all just blend togheter into one giant mistake until you finaly come through.

An old trick I used:

In your conversation, create an opportunity to have a bet with him. Eg, which football team wins, some amazing facts, american idol...

Bet on something like a cup of coffee.

If he wins and he gives you specific instructions as to how he likes his latta and wants it on his desk by 8 am tomorrow, then "he just not that into you".

If he goes to Starbacks with you for the coffee and wants to buy you lunch in return, then he may be interested.

I suppose you could always say: "I'm sorry to ask you this, but I'm confused about something and I'd like to get it cleared up before something bad, or embarrasing happens. This may sound a little out of the blue, but, what do you think of me?"

And you can follow it up from there. Be sure to sound sincere.

HOWEVER, remember that their answer may not always be very clear. They might say "I do love you" and mean it some other way. Discuss the exchange afterwards with someone who knows you well and that you trust.

I'm just adding this because I saw one of the posts above, and I think that he misinterpreted it.

Can NT people quickly decide if the person they are talking to are interested in them or not? Just by picking up clues.

I think most NTs have troubles with forming relationships as well so I think only a small number of people can accurately decide if someone is interested for sure. I think that it would probably be easy to guess for NTs, and even aspies, but you'd be surprised at how many times it turns out that a guess is incorrect.

I just felt it when i was with him. Never any reasoning with myself about it, i just knew. My AS boyfriend told me something similar about how he knew it.

Not very helpful, but that's how i knew it.

I can never tell, but seeing as I would probably never act on it unless someone else actually made the first move, I just flatter myself that EVERYBODY loves me!

It's hard for me to understand whether someone else is interested in me.

Well,since I now have 6 people who like me(yeah it was 5 in my post but it went up to 6 now) I know only these clues:

1.If they do stuff just to get your attention(depends on what they're doing)

2.Stare at ya when (they think) you're not looking.

3.Flirt with you.

4.Call you alot(sometimes they'll hang up on you)

5.And sometimes they'll just come right out and say it.

6.Smile at you alot(you can tell what they mean by the smile if you pay attention to thier eyes).

And that's all I cna think of for now.Bye.

Actually, when my boyfriend and i met eachother for the first time in class (5 people), we used to tick on the table with our pens very loudly at unexpected times, so that everyone looked up and we laughed at eachother. The fun was that everybody could see us :D



Yeah, and then a grin when the other looked up :)



Never had anyone flirting with me, except for a girl once that didn't know we were gay. My boyfriend and i talked about some new programming projects we thought of in a lunchroom, and a girl was apperently impressed by it and smiled at me when i looked in her direction several times. When we got up and payed, and walked out with our arms around eachother, i looked back over my schoulder and she was really pissed off.



Yeah, same with the ticking of the pens :)



Be suspecious in that case, but absolutely not paranoid. He/She _may_ be trying out or something like that, but again, that isn't always the case.



True, altough personally i don't need to look at the eyes, i get the general picture ;)



I'm actually suprised of what i know of it myself (not much, but it's a lot for me as i do it all on my feelings) :~

I think perhaps its about time we consult the book of Cher:

What if you have a alien bursting out of your chest? Or a wart the size of toyko on your nose? What then?

If you have either of those, romantic relations arnt your main concern are they?

I have the same problem sumtimes. I have a habit of missin opportunities cos i think there just beeng nise. And i have another habit of gettin hurt cos i think they fancy me