MagicMike's situation.

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well. the best thing you can do to remove this power element that she has over you is by not caring. about wanting her. about liking her. or whatever. then she will get the message that it doesn't really matter that you like her or not. maybe you could just plain out tell her that you no longer like her. even if this is not the case, and inform her that you have interest in someone else. she might get that message, plus i'm sure a little bit jealous. unfortunatly these games are the ones that nt's play all the time.

i don't know what else to suggest.
i just think that you should tell her that you're not interested in her like that anymore, by being very logical about it.

ie;

you: "i don't like you like that anymore"
her: "oh, ok. why?"
you: "because i realized that it is illogical for me to pursue someone who does not reciprocate interest in me, therefore i've decided that it is better for us to just be friends"

she'll probably think that this is weird, and mistrust you on your feelings. but it is the most honorable way of 'getting out' of the relationship triangle you currently are in.

she'll probably also think that you still like her anyway. but, who cares. part of what she is doing to you is leading you on anyway. imo.

i don't know man. this is my best shot on analyzing what's going on here.

hope it helps.

Are you saying I should be taunt her, insult her playfully or anything like that?

That's my personal favorite approach, although make sure she KNOWS you're joking, otherwise, ouch, misunderstanding can really mess things up.

then your best bet in this type of situation is to wait things out. maybe she is clueless, but she does have a bf. i gave you the best advice to my abilities. (w/out knowing her or you for that matter) so just keep it cool. don't push this relationship in any directions it need not go, because that will only cause more of a strain.

if the most you can get from her is friendship.
take it.
if it were to ever arise that you two could see each other, go for it.

otherwise, just forget it.

i'm really running out of ideas....

All right. I've deleted the conversations from this site as to protect the privacy of the girl. Additionally, I am backing away from her. If she wants to be friends with me, I can work with this. If she doesn't, oh well. I've had a long talk with parents and friends about this and their conclusion is that although the boyfriend is possessive, if she's going along with the paranoia she must be as well. If they have such an unhealthy relationship with each other, what makes me think a hypothetical relationship with her would be any better.

It really is a shame though. Once again I find a girl I think I really like and then these flaws expose themselves. My mom says I'm being too picky trying to look for a geek girl (she says they're too hard to find) but then I say I'd relate better to them. Another friend of mine says "get a cute geek because they're more fun and more imaginative, especially sexually." The thing is I thought that is what I found but then this dark possessive nature had to emerge from an image of the ideal.

Love and dating are very frustrating stages to go through for me; this really should not be.