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Zur-Darkstar
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03 Apr 2011, 10:05 pm

Some of you may remember that about a month ago, I actually got into a bf/gf relationship. Unfortunately, it didn't work out so we broke up about a week ago. The interesting thing is that it didn't bother me too much. We both sort of realized that it was fun but we weren't gonna be right for each other long term. I'm still seeing her as a friend, and I generally haven't been too bummed out about it. I learned a lot from the experience and feel it was overall a positive thing. So, I'm back to the drawing board and starting again with a bit more knowledge and experience than before.

I'm keeping a positive attitude about dating and finding someone. Wish me luck again.


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03 Apr 2011, 10:23 pm

I'm sorry it didn't work out, but at least now you understand what "dating" is...

Keep going, and good luck!



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04 Apr 2011, 4:31 am

Luck again!


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04 Apr 2011, 5:11 am

Zur-Darkstar wrote:
Some of you may remember that about a month ago, I actually got into a bf/gf relationship. Unfortunately, it didn't work out so we broke up about a week ago. The interesting thing is that it didn't bother me too much. We both sort of realized that it was fun but we weren't gonna be right for each other long term. I'm still seeing her as a friend, and I generally haven't been too bummed out about it. I learned a lot from the experience and feel it was overall a positive thing. So, I'm back to the drawing board and starting again with a bit more knowledge and experience than before.

I'm keeping a positive attitude about dating and finding someone. Wish me luck again.


theres plenty more fish in the sea for u mate. :)



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04 Apr 2011, 6:30 pm

Grisha wrote:
I'm sorry it didn't work out, but at least now you understand what "dating" is...

Keep going, and good luck!


Yes, when I was younger and something like this would happen, I'd endlessly obsess over what I did to screw it up or get depressed and think that my situation was hopeless. This time I rather just enjoyed the experience without any preset expectation or goal of any kind. It helps that I've gotten over the fairytale Disney romance ideal and the conservatism of my parents. It makes things a great deal less complicated. When you're not looking for THE ONE, then there's less pressure to try to make everything perfect.


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