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If I cant find anyone in a year suicide will be the answer...I hate to sound morbid but I do not know how much longer I can take the absolute lonlieness.

I know it sucks but please don't give up on life?

Sometimes it can take a few years in between finding someone you're compatible with. I know this is the case for me.

Even my 16 year old brother has girls all over him, but it seems any guy I talk to that i am actually intrested in wants to keep things on a striclty aquantince basis. I dont want to just be the unnessisary aquantince all through life.

Waiting can be hard, but if you keep putting yourself out there and meeting as many people as you can, hopefully you'll eventually get lucky. That's my approach. Fact is that we are not going to have the same level of success in relationships as the average person - it will be harder and it will take us longer, but that doesn't mean it's impossible.

I'm so sorry you've reached that point of loneliness.
I'm right there with you.

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The most you can do is just try to get to know people. Start on forums. Engage yourself in conversations with others, and share and participate in conversations.

We are all misfits here. I know you post in the haven a lot but I think if you came out a little more, got to know people here, and chatted in other conversations, people will get to know you more and it will be nice.

Yes, and heck, you're not alone. I've seen other people on this forum complain that they've never had a girlfriend, and they are well into their 30s. You can still have a life worth living and be single. I'm very happy at the moment, I am six years older than you, and I've never had a single date. My uncle is unmarried, yet happy, at 83 years old. Don't take your life and rob yourself of the opportunity for romance. What if the day after you killed yourself, you would have met the girl who would become your wife?

~facepalm~

We guys aren't that worthy.

Two things. If that's your picture I'm surprised you don't have to beat the boys off with a stick.

Secondly while I doubt I'm going to convince you to not do it, or to seek professional help for your depression (although I do encourage it) can I convince you to wait until you're 30 at least? I didn't meet my wife until I was 26 and I hate for you decide you're not going to meet Mr. Right when you're so young.

I never considered suicide an option for not having a man. It seems like the silliest of reasons for killing oneself. Enjoy being a singleton for goodness sakes. If you want a man of substance, you'll have to be visible on his radar by sobering up and gaining self-sufficiency and security. Then I know you will be beating them off with a stick.

I knwo how it feels being a throwaway aquaintance but don't commit suicide just because you can't find a guy...I'm in the same boat but I just carry on with life, enjoying the things I do.

Well I would not commit suicide over not having a relationship specifically...it would be more of the lonlieness, I guess I just feel like if I was in a relationship it would distract me from the emptiness that I feel. But when I actually think this post through I realise that is a riduclous idea and that I have gone this long without actually killing myself so continuing to remain single probably won't have much of an effect one way or the other.

Haha, whoops!! Okay, I'll rephrase:

What if the day after you killed yourself, you would have met the partner you crave so much?

Sometimes there are scientific solutions for the problems we face. Having been depressed to the point of considering suicide at several points, I can say that antidepressants helped me a lot. I had a lot more energy and found it easier to concentrate. Moreover, I didn't have to drag myself through every single day by sheer will (in hindsight I'm amazed I survived in this state for any length of time). If you tell any doctor, and it doesn't even have to be a psychiatrist, that you're having thoughts of suicide, they'll prescribe these because there's mountains of data showing these drugs are effective.

Not to seem insensitive but you say loneliness is your problem, have you tried using a dog to perhaps stave that off a bit? It's not a woman but it might distract you well enough for a while.