Nice Guys and Love, what's your take on the issue

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Someone told me that you have to treat a woman mean to keep them keen. I think thats a load of BS. what do u think?

I've only been nice to girls and its got me no where and all the guys i know with a girlfriend treat them mean to keep them keen...

I would argue that America is way more liberal than Europe as a whole, I do not know much about Finland but I would say that on a percentage basis America is way more liberal especially for women. Consider this high rate of divorce, only 50% of women ages 15-40 have children, all over our media there are instances of women cheating, extramarital affairs, women who randomly hook up with guys, on television worse, bad girls club, kim kardashian, paris Hilton, …..etc etc. Women are as free as the wind in America. I am a women’s studies minor who participated in high level collegiate classes such as “feminist theory”, “women in western religion” , “women in athletics”.

In high school, there would be girls who slept with whomever they wanted, college, my entire life I have seen women like this, there are also women who choose a different path, some long term commitment. But irrespective of “women’s right’s” for the right set of conditions (ie $, fame, looks, personality, intelligence) some women would settle down.

Also lifestyle should not be defined by gender, it should be defined by ones personality, innate tendencies, behaviors, yet social norms, the media have impressed so much upon the younger generations and people of dating age through gorilla capitalism.

I would have to disagree with you that the prototype 1 men get booted, they don’t they do the booting, and they have the choice to continue life as a successful bachelor until old age or the can choose to commit.

I have had four serious relationships in my life, the first was in high school for a year, a second in college for a year, third and fourth in Colombia, one was 4 months the other was 6 months. I appreciate you comment and compliment, I do have wits but if a girl doesn’t give me the time of day , how will she now? I have looks but they aren’t good enough to not stay lonely.

Considering my dating history and statistics (population, gender ratio, and lifestyle) in America, I feel that is highly improbable that I will meet someone of merit, let alone experience human touch in the near future.

I appreciate your list of hints I will try to bring them to the forefront of my mind yet I feel like they have already been there...... ; I consider myself a good dresser and feel this entirely subjective upon women, different cloths, and different women. I try and look good; I enjoy diesel jeans, nice sneakers, nice shirt. Try and stay comfortable and stylish. I look great in a suit.

I am almost always and always have been a great listener in my relationships. In fact 3/4 of my ex girlfriend have nothing bad to say about me, in fact they all say great things about me, the fourth got married and I don't keep in touch with.

I don’t believe in the “eager” thing, but in the beginning you are right, in my past relationships, they have all started and moved very fast, IE talked on facebook for a day , lunch date on a Friday, talked for 4 hours, took a walk in the park on a sunny day, she left for a meeting, called me a few hours later, came over watched a dvd, waited until 12:01 to make love, she stayed for the entire weekend and then she moved in two weeks later, we were together for a year.

“space” is just a word for “another guy” “uncertainty” “lack of feelings”……. And in America, “space” is considered the norm, it’s ok for girls night out and kiss another guy for some women.

I try to be as interesting as I can but I don’t want to be fake so… If I run out of ideas… I kind of tell her.

I try not to talk about my past until she wants to know because it is deep , sad . . . .

I have never hurt the girl.

Bisexuality is statistically higher in women than men, many women in America want to , or have experienced sexual relations with a female partner, so again I can not agree with you there.