Partner choice problems

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yeah.

I never did end up telling my ex that I cheated on her. her other friends found out.....cause I told them. But she never asked me.

she shouldn't have to ask you. (how would that conversation even go? "hey, dear. how was your day today? that's nice. did you cheat on me?" )


you should have told her.

there isn't much worse than being cheated on, then piling on top of that the disrespect that would keep one from telling the truth to about it.

If you really cared for the emotions of the first girl, you wouldn't have put yourself in a position to be physical with the second girl. True? At least that's the way I think it's supposed to work.

true dat.

But what I want to know, who does he feel more comfortable being around? his girlfriend or the girl he slept with?

First, you said you liked this girl, you shared a bed and you messed around with her, despite the fact that you currently have a girlfriend that you have been seeing for two months.
So, what, you mentioned that she is older than you, i'm going to presume then that you wish to have something with this girl, while you are still with your girlfriend?

Did you even speak to this girl, you never mentioned it but i am going to presume that since you shared a bed with her some words were exchanged.

I have to say that i have a rather low opinion of this girl, and of you. I hate to be a b***h, but do you really want to be in a relationship with a girl who was willing to sleep with you, knowing that you had a girlfriend?
And, conversely, does your girlfriend deserve to be in a relationship with someone who is willing to cheat on her with a girl he just met?

What exactly do you want? You can't have your cake and eat it too, it never works out.

You could go out with both girls at the same time, or you could dump your current girlfriend and be with the other girl, or you could stay with your girlfriend and never mention that night, you could also 'fess up to your girlfriend and hope to hell she doesn't kick your sorry ass.

Personally, i prefer the last option, no matter what you decide you should tell her, as there were other people at your friends house, she'll probably find out anyway, also no-one deserves to be treated the way you have been treating her. That and there's the possibility of you getting what you deserve.

These days, does dating someone for 2 months make them a "significant other" ?

nah.

if it lasts more then six months.

It is irrelevent how long you have been seeing someone, if you agree to see someone then you should treat them in a courteous and appropriate manner with a certain degree of respect, immaterial of how long you have known or been seeing this person.

ok my gf lives 40 mins away from me. so i dunno

40 minutes? well I'm surprised then. 40 minutes? she should of heard somehow by now. 40 minutes.

she hasnt heard yet

it does if they have placed lables on each other.

she should have heard about it...from you.



you are....ick.

ok but how would i put it?

the same way you would put any truth?


"I cheated on you".



if you feel the need to work up to it, you could, perhaps, (if you indeed feel any kind of remorse about it, which you seem to not) say "I feel awkward bringing this up, and I am embarassed that it happened...but I want you to know because I care about you. <insert the situation>."

of course...you can only choose words that fit your own emotions, not the ones I supplied in the example.

ok