husdand that cant joke with me without riping my head off

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i was having a bad day and i came on here to ask a question. not for people to say mean things about my husband.

Last edited by princess8308 on 25 May 2011, 3:18 pm, edited 1 time in total.

we were arguing bad earlier.i thought you were being serious.it was a misunderstanding

I usually feel the same way except the ripping head off part. I would ignored jokes hurled at me if I trusted the person. It is difficult for me to take jokes when it is easy for me to make one that makes people laugh.

I made jokes like you must be possessed, and the person says what are you talking about?

This echo back at me as if it were a sneer or something rather.

It could be that he has a hard time knowing that you are joking & may think that you are insulting & criticizing him. I have that same problem when I was younger. I'm not really sure what advice to offer here but maybe you should quit joking with him. Aspies can have major problems getting jokes sometimes & assume the other person is being serious

How are you joking with him? It isn't unusual for people with AS to get upset over joking that is actually teasing or pertains to a subject or is in a fashion that they have a difficult time with, however to proclaim one wants a divorce is a bit extreme and not really characteristic of AS but may be indicative of other things.

Are you sure he has AS?

Even if he does, he's being a hypocritical as*hole. Plain and simple.

we were having a bad day of arguing and i miss interprited a statement of hers.we joke well most of the time.and we have not argued all week.like wise she was upset with me when she posted.we have been happy together all week

i love my husband

i love you too

Just to point out, it's fairly common for aspies to take things literally because that's technically part of the syndrome. Due to this tendency, some aspies may not recognize sarcasm or some things that were meant as a joke. That's what I think probably happened in this case:

Anyway, I'm glad you two worked it all out.

So it's just your wife being a drama whore. Let's hope it lasts beyond one week.

Then don't mislead people into saying mean stuff about him if that's not what you wanted.

It's often not a good idea to bring private frustrations into a public arena for strangers to speculate, especially when you don't want to hear the answers you receive to the question that you've asked. It is unfair to both your spouse and the strangers you've solicited for advice. If you are offended by the comments to your post, you have no one to blame but yourself. Your edit to the original post reflects a lack of accountability for your own actions, something that I suspect is a pattern in your personal life. I recommend that you think about the consequences of your actions from this point on, both on and off the internet.