Reasons why you're a bad catch

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I am married, but likely headed for a divorce.
Here are several things about me that make it difficult to have any relationship:
- Can't socialize
- Can't do any small talk at all. This is exacerbated by the fact that I don't own a TV and I am usually completely removed from any topic usually discussed at social gatherings.
- Can't recognize most feelings/non-verbal clues. Even if do recognize some of them, I often don't react appropriately
- Can't lie even in situations where truth does more harm than good
- Can't pretend/act/deceive
- Can't dress appropriately. In addition to absense of any sense of fashion or social appropriateness, I have a greatly reduced sensitivity to temperature. If you see a guy in shorts and a t-short walking in the snow at temperatures below freezing, that might be me
- I live like a monk despite having a very large income from a very successful business and numerous investments
- I have a very unusual way of thinking and convictions that could put off a lot of people
- My hobbies are boring to almost anybody
- I am a big muscular guy with many manifestations of incongruent behavior. I am guessing that many people are somewhat afraid I might be some sort of a psycho

- Don't own a car.
- Poor socializing and social skills
- Don't show affection yet oversensitive and over-reactive at times.
- Distant.
- Most hobbies are indoor and not mainstream.
- much shorter than the average male.
- Too blunt.
- Zero relationship experience, ignorant.

You didn't get her to sign a prenup agreement?

What were you trying to achieve by getting married? Did you think that it would change you?

i thinks you lot is to down on yoursef and will end up with a bad sef imige if yous r not careful LOL

Hmm... I doubt it. I'm married and there's a couple of people I know that would jump at the chance to be with me.

We all have our faults.

wow, you're making an unpleasant first impression all over the place.

- I'm neurotic, self absorbed and have the occasional tendency to be narcissistic
- I seriously lack emotional empathy (I have a lot of logical/rational empathy, but if a guy stubs his toe and whines about it I'm more likely to roll my eyes and tell him to harden up. This is not helped by the fact that I have a high pain threshold plus am brutally practical about injury myself - a.k.a. if I notice blood running down my leg, I'll wipe it off when it gets annoying and continue what I was doing).
- I can be emotionally volatile
- My health tends to be very unstable, and I can have breakdowns and retreat from the world completely for months at a time
- I can't stand sharing my space with anyone for extended periods of time
- I can't drive or cook well.
- I'm usually stressed out/on edge.
- I'm not good at any subtle womanly stuff like wearing nice perfume, or subtle clothing styles, or creating "atmosphere" or whatever (I know this stuff exists cause all my female friends seem able to do it).
- In a nutshell, I'm basically unstable.

I could go on, but I won't.

This sounds fun! Note: I'm typing this in jest--I'm happy with who I am.

I'm/I:

-really skinny--I often weigh less than the girl I'm dating
-have weird eating habits--constantly snacking and drinking tea, rarely go out to eat, and tend to keep vegetarian
-quiet
-have hobbies that I haven't found enough girls to share them with [wine/books/chess]
-have weird goals in life
-often do not have enough direction
-get bored with most people rather quickly
-some think I drink too much
-used to smoke, nostalgic about it as well...
-have cluster headaches that make planning things difficult, and I have a tendency to get really short tempered with them
-have musical tastes that the majority of the opposite sex do not share
-weird tastes in film
-hate mornings with a passion
-painfully shy and awkward
-I used to get really attached to people or have little to no attachment to them at all--might be better at this now
-really personal--different groups of people tend to know different things about me
-often would rather be by myself
-most stereotypical "dates" are boring as hell to me
-my long term plans are not conducive to dating
-have trouble relating to a lot of people
-am a bucket full of crazy
-don't take anything seriously
-find humor in situations where I probably shouldn't
-dreadfully sarcastic

Starting to draw a blank--wanted to see how far I could go.

So.... Anyone interested?

Oh! One more thing: I amn't that tall--5 ft 8ish. And I have reddish/blondish hair. Which... may or may not help my cause!

Oh, there is a-plenty of reasons:
-still live with my mother
-even though I don't suck at college, I'm not finished yet because I'm scared as all hell to go into "the real world"
- brutish looking guy that people find intimidating (yes, folks have told me so)
- guess I am not that manly
- no experience in dating, sexual relations or any sort of romantic entanglement
- even though I can be a really funny guy, I am a serious and quite person that needs to be by himself a lot.
- don't like to go out and party, listen to loud music, drink alcohol, ect.
- while I am very self-assured when doing my special interests, I have generally low self-esteem
- the mind of someone who has always been adult paired with the social skills and emotional abilities of a 10 year old

LOL! I'm afraid the joke's on you here, replaced. The woman you're advising on the "only fix she needs" ... have you ever seen her in photos/video? (Freely available.) She's gorgeous. She doesn't "bother with her appearance half the time" because she doesn't need to(!) Hard for women to get dates so she better hurry up??? Given what I've just said, I'd give you somewhere around a one in a million shot with her (on a generous day). I'm fairly sure that it's you who would be "rolling the dice," as you say, and I'd be willing to lay big odds!

Besides that, you're a little late to the party. We have lots of fun discussing women's weight issues with the likes of misogynists like you every ... oh ... few days??? It's getting sooo old already.

(Wow, I really don't like when people show up here just to pick on girls! I say "people." It's got to be the same guy over and over again, right???)

As for me, I'm already "caught." Not saying I'm a good catch, but caught nonetheless. Don't see any point in screwing that up by trying to convince myself I shouldn't be.

Tell you what: I'd be willing to bet anyone here that your "good catch" attributes outweigh your "bad catch" attributes by a very healthy margin. blueroses has the right idea...

Quite an understatement.

How long do you think it'll take for him to get banned? I give him two weeks.

I was wondering if his username was an indication that it was a sock-puppet for an already-banned person...

you needz 2 be more of a gentleman m8, if italked lik dat de missus wood kill me LOL

Gallowglass - the chances of him getting a missus with that attitude are very slim. I don't understand shallow folks. :/

I wonder if he has ever skimmed the adult section that much. His whole " men are more interested in sex " idea would be quite shattered. At least in the threads I participated in, the women seemed to "outsex" the guys here by quite alot.