Do you think this is was good judgment on my part?

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Yer that also talked about in my counselling and NLP training, to avoid having a desk directly in the way when you need to have a personal and emotional conversation plus there a power inbalance with using a desk.

I used that knowledge and other golden nuggets of non verbal communication to my advantage, as I single handily a talked a large company into settling out of court a 12 year long legal dispute we had with each other. Now you know why I NLP

Yes it did take guts. It's a shame that you used your boldness, guts, courage (all good qualities) to make a woman annoyed with you.

Next time, be just as bold and gutsy but don't make a sexual comment.

I think what you missed is the need to be subtle in future, dont delve in deep -

I guess going in with your mates wasnt such a great idea, you could have one hang on outside - for moral support.

Jamesy, body language wasn't great from what you describe, dont get too close - comment about desk being a physical barrier was good as well - places of work often have them to protect the employees.

Learn to flirt, dont necessarily go for the girls that aren't very attractive or who you think are on a par with you or they may think you are mocking them. Girls are attracted to things which dont just include looks. Women think very differently to males and its difficult to know what they are thinking. The picture you posted conveys that she didnt like what you said.

Jamesy go for someone who appears to like you, dress smart/casual, go clean shaven and you should start to see girls flirt with you - it happens a bit to me, they start twirling their hair and do 'come on' thing. A few young females have asked me for sex straight off the bat [17-21 year olds] I said no. So I think you'll find someone nice without too much difficulty but avoid stuck up type, find someone who shares one or more of your interests eg go to photography group if you like it, at least once to see if there is anyone you like.

"And anything else we can get our hands on" was not a nice thing to say. Not to someone you just met and you are trying to like. You are treating her like a skank, and any decent girl would have reacted the same way. I congratulate you for the effort, but you need to work on your lines.