Reasons why you're a bad catch

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30 Jun 2011, 1:29 pm

I'd embrace a gas chamber happily right about now. :cry:

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30 Jun 2011, 1:30 pm

ToughDiamond wrote:

nick007 wrote:

V10L3T wrote:

clingy, immature, daddy issues

That's my favorite kind of girl seriously. I'm dependent, immature & protective so I think I'm most compatible with clingy, immature & daddy issues & I'm also quite attracted to that

Be careful what you wish for......after spending my first few post-puberty years with barely so much as a hug, I was longing for a clingy one to happen by.....but when I got one, it wasn't as nice as I'd expected. EVen now, being kind of lonely again these days, as a gut reaction I'd like somebody to stick to me like a limpet - but it's only a reaction to the current loneliness - it's a rare Aspie who can permanently pig out on the company of a partner without trouble.

Also, if neither partner is at all mature, it's going to be hard to fix arguments.

Don't get me started on daddy issues. I don't think it necessarily means anything so benign as just needing a bit of extra protection from a big man.

Still, I think it's good if people are matched up in the "possessive v. independent" department. A mismatch there can cause an awful lot of completely unnecessary anger.

And anybody who is aware that they have "daddy issues" is likely to do a lot better than somebody who has the same problem but doesn't know it.....if you know your main strengths and weaknesses, that's a great help.

I might be that rare Aspie. My ex was clingy, immature & had daddy issues & I was completely in love with her & obsessed. I thought that was really CUTE :hic:

We did have arguments but her being dependent on me motivated me to be more mature, responsible & independent. I do not think possessive & independent people are a good match for each other. The independent wants more time to do there own thing & the possessive one doesn't get enough attention. I believe possessive people are better off with people who are clingy &/or dependent because they will both get the attention that they want & they will both feel more useful

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30 Jun 2011, 1:38 pm

I'm too fast

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30 Jun 2011, 1:39 pm

I am too oily.

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30 Jun 2011, 2:56 pm

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02 Jul 2011, 12:32 am

I'm a hermit.

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03 Jul 2011, 8:43 pm

It doesn't seem that I'm particularly sociable.
I don't know how to speak without using terms or phrases that are deemed "big words", which I gather confuses many people that I come across.
I don't think that I respond to situations in the manner that I am expected to, which seems to make me come across as disinterested.
I bare a tendency to over think.
People, on the whole, confuse me in romantic situations. And as a result, I get hung up on unresolved items that I try to figure out--which only ever leads to further confusion and subsequent despondency at my inability to understand.
I am too fast.
When caught up in the moment, I rush before I have time to think ahead.
I get overwhelmed and shut down, which can lead to overloading.
My tics intimidate and I speak in a droning voice.

These are all conjectures on my part.

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03 Jul 2011, 8:50 pm

I'm insecure and I expect people to hurt me.

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03 Jul 2011, 9:02 pm

I'm too impulsive.

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04 Jul 2011, 4:23 am

My reasons:

1) Number 1 reason: I have low self-esteem.
2) I'm socially awkward, I think thats self explanatory
3) Im clingy, I have a bad habit of not giving people space. I know guys hate that.
4) I get irritable at times, I have emotional instabilities.
5) Im all or nothing when it comes to romantic interests. I'm very obsessive and I get attached and obsessed very easily with certain guys. With other guys who Im not really interested, I'm too emotionally detached and not romantic at all.
6) Im too low maintenance, I have bad hygiene at times, but I'm working on it. Its fixable.
7) Im insecure, its hard for me to trust people, I get suspicious a lot.

Since I dont have a complete toll on my self-esteem, I'll put reasons that make me attractive.

1) I am attractive when I put efforts into my looks. I'm in good physical shape and I have am attractive body type. I just need to wear form fitted clothing, makeup, make my hair nice and heels.
2) Im assertive, straight forward and I don't play games.
3) Im intelligent, very scientific and logical
4) Im ambitious
5) Im not one of those girly girls who will take forever to get ready and drag their bfs to the mall and shop for hrs and expect the guy to hold their bags and s**t. But Im girly enough so Im not butch.
6) I can be one of the guys. A guy does not have to change the way he acts around me then when he's with his guy friends. Im cool with the lack of tact, stupid jokes, and the grossness, the sarcasm, etc.

Ive found that guys do like me but all the insecurity and clingyness drives them away. I guess when I rationalize it, it makes sense that all the craziness would drive them away.

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04 Jul 2011, 5:31 am

1)poor social skills (aspergers syndrome)
2)recovering alcoholic/drug addict
3)work in construction
4)poor manners, vulgar
5)lost virginity to an escort
6)I hate children
7)negative, bitter
I have been told I am a commitment phobe
9)criminal record
10) limited attention span
11) very narrow interests
12) no emotional depth except for anger
13) not good at feigning interest
14) distrustful
15) limited and poor dating record