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30 Jul 2011, 11:42 pm

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but i cant aproach women offline or anyone for that mater thats why i try to look online cuz it gives me somthing to hide behind plus every time ive tryed offline has ben a total disaster i need to get to know a woman behind my barrier before i meet her offline so i can tell if it will work before i even meet her face to face i realise its hard to realy know somone online but its alot safer then jumping into a relationship with a completly unstable person and only realising it after its too late. ive ben scarred enough.


I think then before you look at getting into a romantic relationship, you should take some time to try to improve your social skills and ability to interact with people in general.



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30 Jul 2011, 11:50 pm

i think this has gone too far away from my original question just asking for a good dating site for aspies that is still active.



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31 Jul 2011, 12:10 am

Does the private messaging system on this site work? cuz ive sent atleast 10 people messages and never got a single reply



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31 Jul 2011, 12:27 am

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Does the private messaging system on this site work? cuz ive sent atleast 10 people messages and never got a single reply


I got your message. I'm composing my thoughts for a reply.



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31 Jul 2011, 12:34 am

guess it does work then but i dunno why none of the other people replyed that was over 2 weeks ago and if it takes over 2 weeks to compose ur thoughts u might wanna update ur word processor :jester:



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31 Jul 2011, 12:55 am

i added my YIM to my profile if u want to have a real conversation



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31 Jul 2011, 12:39 pm

I don't think there is any good dating site for Aspies sense AS is 4x more common in men than women & it's easier for women with AS to get dates sense social roles are different(I am NOT saying it is easier for em to maintain or find a healthy relationship). Any AS site will be a huge sausage fest. Aspie Affection & a couple other AS sites I tried had over 10x more men than women


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31 Jul 2011, 9:55 pm

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guess it does work then but i dunno why none of the other people replyed that was over 2 weeks ago and if it takes over 2 weeks to compose ur thoughts u might wanna update ur word processor :jester:


Or your brain. :P Autism= communication difficulties.

Or they might just have been uninterested.


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01 Aug 2011, 12:14 am

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guess it does work then but i dunno why none of the other people replyed that was over 2 weeks ago and if it takes over 2 weeks to compose ur thoughts u might wanna update ur word processor :jester:


Or your brain. :P Autism= communication difficulties.

Or they might just have been uninterested.
im guessing uninterested which would explain why barely anyone has actualy found a relationship from that singles list and brings me to the question why did they even post on it if there not interested in actualy having a relationship? is it just to tease us male aspies about what we cant have?



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01 Aug 2011, 12:19 am

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Who_Am_I wrote:
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guess it does work then but i dunno why none of the other people replyed that was over 2 weeks ago and if it takes over 2 weeks to compose ur thoughts u might wanna update ur word processor :jester:


Or your brain. :P Autism= communication difficulties.

Or they might just have been uninterested.
im guessing uninterested which would explain why barely anyone has actualy found a relationship from that singles list and brings me to the question why did they even post on it if there not interested in actualy having a relationship? is it just to tease us male aspies about what we cant have?


Naw I don't think it's like that it could be they are just shy and want to get to know each other on a less intimate level such as "small talk" or just basic conversation so they can get to know you better. Most girls and guys that will just jump into a relationship seem to have major issues and aren't worth the trouble! So I'd just suggest just taking things slow and connect with others on a friendly level at first, you never know what that could lead to.



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01 Aug 2011, 12:19 am

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I don't think there is any good dating site for Aspies sense AS is 4x more common in men than women & it's easier for women with AS to get dates sense social roles are different(I am NOT saying it is easier for em to maintain or find a healthy relationship). Any AS site will be a huge sausage fest. Aspie Affection & a couple other AS sites I tried had over 10x more men than women
4x more males then females? that means only 25% of us get a woman of our own kind 8O the rest will have to try there luck with the humans!! ! ive tryed dating humans never works for me :(



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01 Aug 2011, 12:21 am

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orly?


Are you going to France now instead of America, meat girl? :)


I iz confused? I meant "oh, really?" But I spelled the ke000wl way. 8)



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01 Aug 2011, 12:25 am

Trigas wrote:
TurreticStorm wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
TurreticStorm wrote:
guess it does work then but i dunno why none of the other people replyed that was over 2 weeks ago and if it takes over 2 weeks to compose ur thoughts u might wanna update ur word processor :jester:


Or your brain. :P Autism= communication difficulties.

Or they might just have been uninterested.
im guessing uninterested which would explain why barely anyone has actualy found a relationship from that singles list and brings me to the question why did they even post on it if there not interested in actualy having a relationship? is it just to tease us male aspies about what we cant have?


Naw I don't think it's like that it could be they are just shy and want to get to know each other on a less intimate level such as "small talk" or just basic conversation so they can get to know you better. Most girls and guys that will just jump into a relationship seem to have major issues and aren't worth the trouble! So I'd just suggest just taking things slow and connect with others on a friendly level at first, you never know what that could lead to.
but i do try to be friends first im not an ideot i want a real healthy relationship based on friendship and i say that in my messages but still get nothing



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01 Aug 2011, 12:27 am

Spazzergasm wrote:
Tequila wrote:
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orly?


Are you going to France now instead of America, meat girl? :)


I iz confused? I meant "oh, really?" But I spelled the ke000wl way. 8)
im confused too what are u talking about? if i were to look outside of america it would mean either she would have to relocate or i would and i dunt think ive ever met a woman from france so id be clueless how to act



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01 Aug 2011, 12:30 am

TurreticStorm wrote:
Trigas wrote:
TurreticStorm wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
TurreticStorm wrote:
guess it does work then but i dunno why none of the other people replyed that was over 2 weeks ago and if it takes over 2 weeks to compose ur thoughts u might wanna update ur word processor :jester:


Or your brain. :P Autism= communication difficulties.

Or they might just have been uninterested.
im guessing uninterested which would explain why barely anyone has actualy found a relationship from that singles list and brings me to the question why did they even post on it if there not interested in actualy having a relationship? is it just to tease us male aspies about what we cant have?


Naw I don't think it's like that it could be they are just shy and want to get to know each other on a less intimate level such as "small talk" or just basic conversation so they can get to know you better. Most girls and guys that will just jump into a relationship seem to have major issues and aren't worth the trouble! So I'd just suggest just taking things slow and connect with others on a friendly level at first, you never know what that could lead to.
but i do try to be friends first im not an ideot i want a real healthy relationship based on friendship and i say that in my messages but still get nothing


Well maybe try a different approach I guess? Very Very casual sounding so they are more likely to respond. But who knows what the other person has going through their head, I know some people get anxiety replying to certain types of messages like PM's so that could possibly a reason. They just choose to avoid them.



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01 Aug 2011, 12:31 am

TurreticStorm wrote:
Spazzergasm wrote:
Tequila wrote:
Spazzergasm wrote:
orly?


Are you going to France now instead of America, meat girl? :)


I iz confused? I meant "oh, really?" But I spelled the ke000wl way. 8)
im confused too what are u talking about? if i were to look outside of america it would mean either she would have to relocate or i would and i dunt think ive ever met a woman from france so id be clueless how to act


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