Grisha wrote:
Not sure what "need" actually means - I see it as only varying degrees of "want"
You "need" air, you "want" sex (for example)
If "needed" a partner I'd have been dead a long time ago...
Oh, i like this comment, if love is a need i should have died a long time ago.
But seriously i need someone who can support me emotionally. I have a couple of friends who do this for me, but they are in relationships and i feel i shouldn't lean on them too much because that isn't fair. They have their own girlfriends, it makes me feel like i'm having emotional affairs. I need a guy of my own to talk to about stuff, someone who can comfort me, someone who can reason with me and make me see sense when i am swept up in uncontrolable emotions.
I need someone who i can comfortably share my life with someone with similar values, but i also need someone with their own strong point of view who can challenge me and discuss interesting things with me or i will feel unfulfilled. I need someone i can trust and whom i respect.
I need someone physical, i need hugs, to put it mildly. I can't be with someone who doesn't like touch. Although i come across as someone who doesn't like touch so no one knows thats what i really want from a guy.
I need someone kind and caring and willing to listen. I need someone who doesn't judge me. I need someone who likes me, loves me back. Someone who i enjoy being around, someone who makes me laugh. Someone quirky. I have all this in a friend of mine, but he's taken. I need someone of my very own.